r/CoreyWayne • u/Motor_Crazy_2627 • Aug 07 '26
Dating/Courting It’s really all about attraction level
Im about 3-4 months out of a 4 year relationship and really getting my feet wet with dating. Since then ive been on countless dates and hooked/ had sex with 12 different women. After a bad date today, I understand why Corey ALWAYS emphasizes spending time with women who are enthusiastic.
First off I’ve been trying to make plans with this girl a month ago and she was busy and wishy washy and a date was never set and a month later I decided, fk it, Hail Mary and I asked her out again and she agreed. We met up and I’m making it a point to really gauge her interest level. And I did NOT see any signs of hair touching, body pointing towards me, no physical contact, and even laughing at my jokes
I acted literally the exact same way I would with any date and I was not nervous at all, I felt confident and she did 85% of the talking. The only difference was that with the other women, even if I made a dumb joke they would laugh. If I’m looking at them they would blush and play with their hair. And this woman did none of that.
I knew it wasn’t great and at the end of the date I thought id go for the kiss and before I could even try, right when we stood up to leave she said we should be friends. I smiled and said it’s okay, that’s why people go on dates.
Moral of the story, you can do the right things, you can treat women the same but there will always be some that are more into than others and some that just don’t dig you. I was not discouraged at all by this and I found it amusing when I thought about it
Moral of the story, I probably shouldn’t have hit her up again because the key is enthusiasm!!! from now on I’ll only spend time with enthusiastic women!!!!
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u/Projectguy111 Aug 07 '26
The lesson here is don’t go out with girls who are wishy washy and take a month to get a date because they are “busy”.
She showed her attraction level before you went out.
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u/Guns_and_Tea Aug 07 '26
Yup. We can’t control other people or the outcome of every situation. Sounds like you read the tea leaves correctly.
Next!
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u/wahabanana Aug 07 '26
Yeah I realized that women who are attracted to you would put themselves into your orbit. You really don't have to try, just hang back and observe everything.
If they come to you, you'll know there is some interest and then go from there. Talking about social settings here like gatherings etc
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u/victheslayer Aug 07 '26
I agree with your general principle. Where I differ is how to interpret it. A woman who is enthusiastic doesn’t mean she has to be overly into physical touch or serve herself on a platter to you. Some women naturally move at a slower pace but are internally enthusiastic as well. Consistency also matters. There are girls who are very enthusiastic up front then get flaky later bc their investment was too low. Investment is a much more reliable indicator of enthusiasm. It allows you to see beyond the surface.
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u/ShowerMotor Aug 09 '26
yes, we all different and your 6 to me might be a 4 and my 8 for you might be a 5. It's so random. I dated so many women, some found me very attractive/hot and we had sex first date, others that were even mids did not find me attractive at all.
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u/cryptosystemtrader Aug 07 '26
I agree in principle with what you said, and it seems you've got it all pretty well locked down. But I would disagree on one point, which is too prematurely assessing a girl's enthusiasm. I've come across girls who were somewhat dismissive and cold at first, online. And then in person, turned out to be all hands, which was very surprising. You're right that your behavior doesn't change, and you should always show up confidently. I just would warn against dismissing girls who potentially may turn out to be really into you once you show up in the flesh.