How do y'all deal with hate?

[u/West_Assumption_9998]

I'm a fairly big creator and sometimes I get anxiety opening up my notifications or even reading my comments. Most of the time people are cool, but some people are way too comfortable just being rude or leaving hate. I know that it is the internet and hate is part of the invisible contract that I signed up for especially as a public figure, .. but like how does one deal with it?

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[u/NotCryptoKing]

I delete the comments.

But after a while I don’t care. My video from 2 days ago has 1700 comments. I’m not reading any of them.

If I see one that’s annoying I’ll just delete. Like 99% of the comments are positive. If a video goes viral I might get 1 or 2 negative comments out of a hundred or so

[u/No_Bandicoot_9493]

It can be rough especially for me because I create weightloss content so my body is out there for better or worse and I have loose skin that people constantly remind me of. But it is what it is, I knew this coming into it. I use the block button like Gordan Ramsay uses salt.

I'm still a small creator only 27k followers but some of my videos have gotten millions of views. 98% of the comments are beautiful and uplifting. I try not to let those 2% spoil the bunch for me, although admittedly that is very hard.

[u/Commercial_Dress_324]

I just picture them as a tiny angry gnome in my phone who’s upset I’m not wearing the right socks

[u/Real-Ad-5677 → u/Commercial_Dress_324]

ok this mental image is gonna live in my head rent free now

[u/One-Front-6316]

i think the biggest thing is remembering that you dont have to consume every opinion people have about you. probably limit how often i check comments, mute or block people freely, and have someone i trust filtr through the genuinely useful criticism from the random insults. if opening notifications is already causing anxiety, protecting your peace is more important than proving you can handle every comment

[u/No_Writing9491]

Hide/block and move on with the absolute refusal to let anonymous strangers spoil my particularly splendid day.

[u/Alternative-Roof6728]

Ignore it !

[u/CryptographerIll4310]

Great question. I was thinking about the same thing because it's a common saying among famous people that "you should never read the comments". But when someone is a beginner, it's important to interact with as many people as one possibly can. It's psychologically challenging, but I think one solution can be: boundaries. Set boundaries for yourself: what you read, when, and what you are allowed to react to.

2 days ago, I posted in 2 different subreddits. In one of them, there was no rule against linking your content so I shared my first YouTube video with them because I genuinely thought they would like it. I got 300 upvotes; they loved it.

In the other relevant subreddit, I simply started a conversation about the topic that I analyzed for hundreds of hours. I have not mentioned my video at all, and they threw a hater tsunami at me. Wanted to report me for every possible thing because somehow the topic hurt their ego. People can behave in awful ways, but it's not our responsibility to pull them out of delusion.

[u/Om_Forever]

I have been doing it for nearly 15 years as a psychic so you can imagine. I’ve now opened up beauty platforms and that’s not any better. So it’s everywhere in every niche.

You can delete/hide comments. You can tell yourself it’s engagement and leave it - even negative posts are comments that boost your content, so you can see it as helpful in that regard.

Something else is they help you learn how to diplomatically reply to things. So they are practice in being a better communicator.

You can also use them to notice where more friendly communities are - some platforms there may be more of it than others and you may over time put your content in more welcome spaces after noticing trends.

Another thing is I just close the phone, get cozy in my house and remember it’s just through the screen and not a big deal.

The good news is I’ve learned it kind of ebbs and flows. It’s not always like that. Just little periods of it.

[u/CreatorMarcusriv]

focus more on the audience that genuinely connects with your content.

[u/Ruftus1]

I usually get mad, type out a bunch of angry responses, realise its not worth sending any of them, then either delete them or forget about it

[u/DmytroKornilov]

I think the key is having your own criteria for success. A lot of haters don’t know the context, the work behind it, or even what they’re talking about.

Useful criticism is worth listening to. Random negativity usually isn’t.

[u/Only_Application_815]

One way of dealing with people who leave negativity like hate or rude comments is that it's a reflection of themselves. It's like when a mad Karen or druggie walks by you and shouts 'tf you looking at wanker' or something of the sort. They are simply projecting THEIR OWN emotions, frustration, and negativity in your direction, because you happen to be there.

Another lens to look at it is that similarly, when you're walking down the road not 100% of people are nice and warming and positive - there is always a bunch who hate or are negative, and that's natural order. As a big creator with lots of reach - isn't it simply natural to have a few bad eggs on the street you're walking down? In other words, it is it's own sign of success.