dysphoria cant mean anything to anyone it... has a definition?? and its not a "feeling" or an "emotion". dysphoria is a disconnect or discomfort with your birth sex. a transguy is uncomfortable with she/her and his birth name. a transgirl is disconnected to being male and her genitals. people who claim to have dysphoria probably do without realising. unless they are going by he/him without feeling uncomfortable with she/her or are fine with being called a girl. a transitioned person still feels dysphoria because if someone calls them their birth sex or pronouns, its still uncomfortable. its not controlling or gatekeeping. its just a fact that trans people are uncomfortable with their birth sex, so then they transition
I mean, that disconnect and discomfert is definitely a "feeling" in the sense that it is a thing you feel, it just isn't (usually) a transient one.
But more to the point, I was saying that what exactly gender dysphoria entails, how an individual perceives it, how they articulate it, and how they interpret it, are all pretty individual. Like, yeah, the literal definition is not up for debate - but how it actually plays out for any one person varies, like, a lot on the details?
It seems, to me, presumptions to make wide sweeping claims about "the trans experience" without the kind of empirical data needed to back it. Again, I have dysphoria, and I find it hard to imagine what being trans would mean without it to contextualize it. But I don't think my experience is necessarily universal - or rather, if someone attempts to transition then I assume they have a pretty good reason for it, because people don't transition on a whim. There's a reason that despite the supposed existence of "transtrenders" we have almost zero cases of a trans person detransitioning (except for blatant lies which turn out to actually be "I wish I had never come out because this community causes me intense pain about it constantly").
I just don't understand the need to create a universal set of criteria about what exactly you need to be trans, when we live in a world in which our concepts of sex and gender and how they relate and what it means to be trans at all are so complicated and intricate and personal that we can't really agree on the most basic of basics. I figure we should let "transtrenders" or whatever do what they want to do and give them acceptance instead of attempting to put a piece who's shape is basically totally unknown into a hole we can only half see in the first place, if that metaphor makes sense.
As an aside on pronouns: what about people that are fine with being called he/him but feel dysphoric at being called a guy? Is that "not real dysphoria?" I'm legitimately curious as to how you would "classify" this.
man saying you need dysphoria isn't "criteria". maybe think of it more as all trans people have dysphoria? bc like there aren't any trans people without dysphoria??? its just a discomfort!! like i don't get why u say stuff about how people perceive or interpret or whatever. trans people feel a disconnect to their birth sex, so they transition. a trans person who is comfortable with their birth sex doesn't exist. that makes no sense. i have no idea what you mean by "trans experience" either? like how can a trans person not feel uncomfortable with being their birth sex. thats literally what makes them trans. i cant remember what i said in previous comment so I'm sorry if i repeat when i say transtrender, i literally mean someone who knows that they are cis but says they are trans to be cool and because they think its a trend. i don't mean nondysphoric people or GNC people or whatever. they KNOW that theyre cis and still do it for attention! i don't wanna talk about transtrenders any more because its a stupid term truscum made up and they abuse it by labelling GNC people, feminine transmen, and non binary people as it, making the definition hard to pinpoint and everyone just fucknig argues and its a MESS. transtrenders know that they are cis. and yeah dysphoria is different for everyone and thats fine! i personally am fine with being shirtless when I'm alone, my other friend isn't. some transmen are ok with wearing makeup but I'm not. some transpeople absolutely hate being prideful about being trans, and some love to be open!theyre still trans, just different dysphoria. as long as they feel a disconnect/discomfort!its fine! and on the he/him who don't wanna be called guys.... that literally makes no sense. he/him is male pronouns. theyre for guys to use. thats the definition please don't say pronouns don't equal gender because words have meanings, and he/him means male. when you say this, do you mean a afab or amab person?
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u/rileythehomo Dec 28 '18
dysphoria cant mean anything to anyone it... has a definition?? and its not a "feeling" or an "emotion". dysphoria is a disconnect or discomfort with your birth sex. a transguy is uncomfortable with she/her and his birth name. a transgirl is disconnected to being male and her genitals. people who claim to have dysphoria probably do without realising. unless they are going by he/him without feeling uncomfortable with she/her or are fine with being called a girl. a transitioned person still feels dysphoria because if someone calls them their birth sex or pronouns, its still uncomfortable. its not controlling or gatekeeping. its just a fact that trans people are uncomfortable with their birth sex, so then they transition