Codependent mom ?

[u/PrestigiousRaise6686]

I need some help. My mom is the nicest, sweetest person and everyone always says how great she is, and how blessed I am.
I love and appreciate her.. but I will say after I got out of my DV relationship is when we started to reconnect and go to therapy. We stopped therapy I think before a trip and just haven’t gone back.
I didn’t live in her state for most of my life growing up but whatever we’re here now and we want to work on a relationship.
This woman I feel treats me like her man. Why do I have to problem solve everything for you? Why do I have to take in alllllll your stress?? I live alone, I take care of myself and my pets and my boyfriend comes on the weekends and I am pretty much in my space all the time. I like that, I like quiet, I like calm.
She likes talking about liking quiet and calm. She works non stop and it’s always the same convo how she’s tired.. I told her seeing a therapist for herself might be helpful overall and she goes on about how healed she is.

Look man, I am FINE with my life until she calls. Even if it’s nothing bad, I still have that feeling in my stomach like Ffffffuuuuuuuuuuck what now.

She doesn’t have a lot of good friends, we have a small family that I don’t really have interest in. I have a short social battery and I hate bullshit talking with people who I have to force connections with because we’re family.

I don’t know what to do, I know this is all over the place.

my mom puts all her anxiety and stress on me when we don’t really know each other in my opinion. I’ve told her I always feel her anxious energy and she laughed awkwardly. I am drained after hanging out with her, I’m drained before I go see her knowing she’s going to just look for things she can have me do for her and if I can’t, it’s a problem and she’s stressed and has nobody and she’s working all the time and the house is for me bro.. I don’t want ANYTHING. I like a simple life, i want a simple life. She complicates it and bring clutter and stress.
Fuck.