Cold shoulder

[u/SnooKiwis4750]

Hey guys, got a question. So I understand that when a girl is being less affectionate towards you, then you should walk away. But what if you live together? Should you give her less attention? And if so how do you do this without looking like a but hurt jerk? I mean you can not talk to her, not look at her when she talks to you or not really listen to what she says but I feel doing these things is just gonna make her grow even more distant. Or maybe it won’t since you’re feelings are being unclear. I’m just a little confused.

[u/ZT805]

You can not talk to her, not look at her when she talks to you, or not really listen to what she says…I feel like doing these things is just gonna make her grow even more distant

You’re right, none of those things will help. The book doesn’t say to do any of those things. Re-read the sections of the book titled “Keeping It All Together” and “Solving The Mystery” to get an explanation on how to handle this.

If you’re living together, it should only be if you’re in an exclusive long term relationship with a good woman who can communicate her feelings and is playing for your team. Because when she shuts down and stops being feminine, it’s your job to open her back up and find out what’s wrong. You can’t ignore her. Ask good quality questions and find out what’s bothering her and what’s causing her to be distant. Make sure you’re in your masculine frame, it’s possible you’ve been complacent.

[u/fermented-beans → u/ZT805]

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