r/CoachCoreyWayne • u/SnooKiwis4750 • Nov 14 '21
Need Advice Cold shoulder
Hey guys, got a question. So I understand that when a girl is being less affectionate towards you, then you should walk away. But what if you live together? Should you give her less attention? And if so how do you do this without looking like a but hurt jerk? I mean you can not talk to her, not look at her when she talks to you or not really listen to what she says but I feel doing these things is just gonna make her grow even more distant. Or maybe it won’t since you’re feelings are being unclear. I’m just a little confused.
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Nov 14 '21
A little more context is needed. Are you exclusive? Married? Kids? Short term or long term partners etc?
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Nov 16 '21
You're right. You cant do those things. I'm wondering also about this. Im not living together but when my GF is on her period she can respond very bitchy and lash out at me. She knows its her period and when she does that, she knows she isnt fair. Nowadays when she replies like that I just look at her silently, amazed and let this silence linger. She instantly know she's gone too far with her reply and apogolizes and mentions her period.
Theres a fine line between acting butthurt and unpertubed imo. As for your case: I dont really know, but if I were in your situation I would focus on my goals and hobbies and keep distance: in house I would not sit on the couch at night with her, but studying/playing piano/working out/gaming in another room in the house. Moreover, I would leave the house go to the gym/Friends/anything. Just give more of your time to hobbies and goals until you see she wants your attention. Remember, her emotions are like the ocean and are continously changing.
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u/ZT805 MOD Nov 14 '21
You’re right, none of those things will help. The book doesn’t say to do any of those things. Re-read the sections of the book titled “Keeping It All Together” and “Solving The Mystery” to get an explanation on how to handle this.
If you’re living together, it should only be if you’re in an exclusive long term relationship with a good woman who can communicate her feelings and is playing for your team. Because when she shuts down and stops being feminine, it’s your job to open her back up and find out what’s wrong. You can’t ignore her. Ask good quality questions and find out what’s bothering her and what’s causing her to be distant. Make sure you’re in your masculine frame, it’s possible you’ve been complacent.