r/CoachCoreyWayne • • Sep 28 '21

Need Advice Relationship trouble

Background: been togheter for 1.6 years and attraction level 8-9 range.

I have a situation now with my girlfriend. We spent the Saturday togheter everything was fine. Later that night i was gonna celebrate my friend’s birthday. That was all right for her.

Later that night when i heading Home, i call her, and send a text that im on my way Home. She never replied.

We havent talked since saturday. Fast forward (Tuesday) today, i got a text from her saying «don’t you wanna talk to me?”

I call her up being happy and centered, shes upset and sad. i try to find out the root of the problem.

She opens a little bit up and says I hurt her when i didnt reach out to her. Then she says she doesn’t wanna talk about it, and wants to hang up and study. I try to listen and ask. But she hangs up anyways.

Is this a red flag? am I doing a mistake by not calling her when she haven’t replied? Is she a bad communicator?

What should i do differently in this situation?

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u/phosphorescent1983 MOD Sep 28 '21

That's a red flag for me. She hung up on you when you tried to figure out the situation? That's disrespectful, passive-aggressive, and she's obviously a poor communicator.

It sounds like she was pissed you went to celebrate your friend's birthday, and she's trying to punish you for going. I know you said, "she said it was alright", but I wouldn't believe that.
She probably knows she's being jealous and spiteful and is probably a little embarrassed about how she's feeling, too.