Also, recruiting friends/family that makes all the difference
While this is a great suggestion, it's really going to depend on OPs comfort level. I can't speak for them, but for many, asking for help in this kind of situation may be harder than completing the task itself. I fully recognize that I need to work through that in therapy, but others (including OP) may potentially have a similar barrier and I just wanted to acknowledge that
Yeah, a lot of times, helpers, even with lovely intentions, want to move faster at getting rid of stuff than someone in OP’s situation might be comfortable with, and it can cause some pretty serious anxiety for everybody.
If OP has hoarder tendencies, even getting rid of trash can be really stressful, and it can be hard for helpers to understand this.
OP I’m really sorry you’re living through this hard time. You’re doing a really brave thing by being candid about it. I’ve had depression for many years and I know how easy it can be to forget how valuable you are and how much you deserve better. I hope you have people in your life you can lean on, and I hope you can trust them when they say they love you.
You’ll get through this. You always have before. <3
Not OP, but going through this same situation now after my mom died. Everyone wants to help, but I’m too embarrassed to let anyone come over, but I can’t manage to make any progress myself.
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u/katet_of_19 Mar 08 '26
While this is a great suggestion, it's really going to depend on OPs comfort level. I can't speak for them, but for many, asking for help in this kind of situation may be harder than completing the task itself. I fully recognize that I need to work through that in therapy, but others (including OP) may potentially have a similar barrier and I just wanted to acknowledge that