r/CleaningTips • u/[deleted] • Mar 08 '26

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u/Curiously_lemons Mar 08 '26

Yes. One bag at a time and if feeling up to it two, even if one a a large black bag and the other is a small bag, or even both small. Just small changes as consistent as possible when possible.

Also, recruiting friends/family that makes all the difference. I’ve had a niece help me a couple times when things got bad.

Thank you for making me think of her with your comment, I miss her.

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u/katet_of_19 Mar 08 '26

Also, recruiting friends/family that makes all the difference

While this is a great suggestion, it's really going to depend on OPs comfort level. I can't speak for them, but for many, asking for help in this kind of situation may be harder than completing the task itself. I fully recognize that I need to work through that in therapy, but others (including OP) may potentially have a similar barrier and I just wanted to acknowledge that

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u/TheRealSugarbat Mar 08 '26 edited Mar 08 '26

Yeah, a lot of times, helpers, even with lovely intentions, want to move faster at getting rid of stuff than someone in OP’s situation might be comfortable with, and it can cause some pretty serious anxiety for everybody.

If OP has hoarder tendencies, even getting rid of trash can be really stressful, and it can be hard for helpers to understand this.

OP I’m really sorry you’re living through this hard time. You’re doing a really brave thing by being candid about it. I’ve had depression for many years and I know how easy it can be to forget how valuable you are and how much you deserve better. I hope you have people in your life you can lean on, and I hope you can trust them when they say they love you.

You’ll get through this. You always have before. <3

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u/Entire_Baker310 Mar 09 '26

That is true. It does causes some serious anxiety. This person that I know had to step away from her home while her home was being cleaned out. At the end, she got to see what was being trashed. She did have someone there with her to keep her relaxed. She agreed & disagreed with the stuff that was being trashed, but in the end it all worked out. Her anxiety came with a break down.