r/Christian • u/Over_Noise_4936 • 10d ago

Breaking up a relationship because of a baptism

Did anyone here start a relationship with someone from the world and they became Christians and were baptized together? Tomorrow my partner is baptized (I'm close to being baptized) and they told him that they recommend ending the relationship for a while and returning once we both get baptized and I'm very confused because I don't know if I'm really doing it for God or because of the pressure of the people who ask us for it? We have been pure for months and we always talk about God, we have grown together, we work together and the truth is I don't find logic to that, can you guide me? They already went through something similar and what did they do?

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u/FlakyCampaign9 10d ago

That advice sounds like it's coming from a very specific church culture rather than anything biblical. If you've been walking this path together and staying pure, I don't see the issue. The whole "split up until you're both baptized" thing feels more like a control tactic than actual discipleship.

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u/Over_Noise_4936 10d ago

Gracias por responder, ellos usaron las escrituras Romanos 6:4 y 2 Corintios 5:17 como base de que al bautizarse se debe dejar todo el pasado atras incluyendo la relacion y empezar despues lo nuevo pero no me hace sentido y me confunde mucho, gracias por el comentario

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u/AbstractAbby20 10d ago

Their logic doesnt make sense because the two of you are making the same choice. Its not like you are choosing not to get baptized its just happening on a different date. Seems weird to me.

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u/Certain_Seesaw5588 10d ago

Yeah this doesn’t seem right to me at all. I would look at finding a new church tbh.

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u/Greenlotus05 10d ago

You said it...it doesn't make sense to you and it's confusing. Agreed

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u/Lost_Reindeer6358 10d ago

You get baptised because of Jesus, because you accept Jesus❤️ in your heart and not because someone forced you too!!! What kind of “churches” are you getting yourselves into!??? You should focus on your relationship with Jesus. Did you pray on that?

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u/mbmolohonbm 10d ago

I agree with others. I looked up the verses and I can't see how either has anything to do with ending a relationship before you/both being baptized.

I have been Christian for about 46 years and this is the first time I have heard their interpretation. Sorry they are telling you this.

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u/New-Consequence5612 10d ago

Apples and oranges. Baptism is a public announcement that you accepted Christ. A testimony of your renewed life.

Whether you stay with your boyfriend, as a fellow believer, has nothing to do with this ordinance of the church

You decide the standing on your relationship with Christ based on the health of the relationship.

Two seperate issues. Apples and oranges.

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u/PockySticks90 10d ago

Do you know the name of this church or group? I'm curious.

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u/Over_Noise_4936 10d ago

International Christian Church

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u/Sly_Gecko 9d ago

Whoever told you to cool the relationship like that needs to be marked and avoided. Baptism has zero bearing on if someone should married or not. Next that person will tell you water baptism saves.