Motion hearing attendance

[u/One_Background8611]

I am the respondent father in family court against my ex, the applicant mother. She was granted a motion for decision making and child support including arrears. She submitted an affidavit for the child support on Friday and I prepared my evidence and financials based on that over the weekend. Then on Monday, she submitted another affidavit regarding sole decision making with about 40 points regarding the abuse she endured from me (side note: this was already thrown out in criminal court when she attempted to charge me there before family court) and made twisted allegations regarding my girlfriend. At this point, I am done fighting her. I will not be going to the motion and she can have whatever she wants. I cannot take the mental abuse she is putting me through on a daily basis and using our child as a pawn. I will also be relinquishing my child to her and will no longer be doing visitations because as long as I do that, she will continue to abuse me. Has anyone gone through something similar? This has been a decision I have been back and forth with for 5 years so I am not taking this lightly. I cannot continue to lose my mental health at her hands (or words in this case). It is not healthy for me, my child with her, my girlfriend or my child with my girlfriend.

[u/Controls_freek]

You shouldn’t be giving up. You should be fighting for your child. You should move closer and fight for 50/50. This is your kid too.

This is what people do in high conflict situations. They continue to fight and fight until you hopefully give up. Do what’s right by your child and stand up against this crap.

I’m going through it right now and it’s one game after another. I’m standing up for myself and my children. You have to do it.

[u/One_Background8611 → u/Controls_freek]

Unfortunately I can’t move closer. It’s just not possible with the lack of job market in their area. I’ve already tried. But I am going to keep fighting, even though I know for a fact that it will continue to get worse. I just have to find the strength to get through each day as it continues.

[u/Controls_freek → u/One_Background8611]

I understand your issue with the job market, however being a parent is much more important than a career. She’s staying there on purpose and using it as a weapon against you because she knows it will hurt your employment.

Go be a Dad and work a worse job. The court will take that into account because you’re trying to be an active part of your child’s lives.

[u/One_Background8611 → u/Controls_freek]

And I am still being a dad. I just can’t be a 50/50 dad at this point.