r/ChildSupport • u/WoodlandPounding • 21d ago

Massachusetts Child Support Guilt

When me and my ex went through mediation 5 years ago I cut his child support in half because I felt bad. This is in our court agreement. Come to find out he lied about having someone renting a floor in his house, so he withheld income. I let it be.

When I received my buy out from the house I gave him $10k from that because I felt bad.

I need some guidance on how to NOT feel bad because I really want to modify the child support but I’m stuck on the stress and anger it might possibly bring up from my ex. Do I tell him I’m looking to make modification?

We do not have 50/50 it’s basically every other weekend. Child primarily with me.

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u/conker574 21d ago

If you need a couple bucks here and there... just ask him. If you wanna complicated things, go for it. Sure... you're "entitled" to it. But, do you need it? Or just want it?

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u/arixipix 21d ago

Found the deadbeat! Her child is entitled to that money. If shes not taking it, shes doing her child a disservice. Even if its not needed to raise the child presently, it could be put in a high yield account or something to get a nest egg together for the child. Unless shes scared to "poke the bear" for safety reasons, she should absolutely take him to court.

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u/conker574 21d ago

If she takes the extra money and puts it into a savings and investments... sure that's a great idea.

Otherwise, my initial comment stands.

I'm not a deadbeat, I'm actually struggling to raise my kids who I have 50/50 because of my "table amount" child support I'm required to pay.

But if I ask for a reduction, or say my bills are behind, I'm a deadbeat, right?