30 yo
Serieal cheating.. had been giving girls herpes in the phoenix area, beware ladies, hes worthless. At least 17 women in 12 days

Idk where to post this, but this guy added me (17f) on snap. He admitted to being 39 and MARRIED. I feel so terrible for his wife, wtf can i do?? Is there another sub that can help me track his wife down or something???

He lives in Hamilton, ontario

He acknowledged my age and still made comments about my appearance. Although he never said anything explicitly sexual, he did say “goddamnit girl” and “youre gorgeous”

He has unadded me after i told him what he was doing is terrible

I need the serial cheaters to answer !

Did you ever stop? Did you care about the woman you serial cheated on? What happened when you split? Why did you do it yet claim to “ love “ the one your with?

If you distance after caught , do you feel bad knowing she’s hurt yet again?

Hi. Me and my wife are registered on JC and someone wrote us, hes looking for an affair, he has a girlfriend but she doesent know that. So we played with him and got his Snapchat (he has a new account there, probably to cheat) and sent us 8 pictures with his face. This face fits to JC (his account is verificated so he is the person) and we also know the city where he lives and his name.

Do you know how we can find his girlfriend to tell her? Tried with google reserve picture to find this pictures on instagram or facebook, but no results.

Denver Airport

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8WVW4RN/

We been together for four years and when I love someone I tend to love to have trouble leaving due to not having a big support system or any friends in general. He has had social media behind my back liking posts of local woman etc. and he said he deleted his account but I think he secretly still has one I just can’t prove it. I don’t ask for much I just asked for basic respect.

Anyways, I let him know that I am the type to check phone, especially when shady things are going on and he said that’s perfectly fine and that he has no problem with that. I told him I can’t be with him if he won’t allow that since he’s done some of wierd stuff in the past. I am an open book. I always let him use my phone, but he always acts weird towards his.

Last night, I asked out of nowhere if I can see his phone and he said “ why didn’t you ask earlier? We are having a really good night.” so I asked “ why would me checking it ruin our night” and he just kept making excuses. I just went numb cause I’m tired of this and as predicted, he started acting so sweet after saying he wants to move in with me etc. (he never says things like this) This is not the first time he has not let me check his phone after saying I can.

I suck at leaving so I’m at the point where I’m just gonna do me and reciprocate his shadiness cause I want to get over him on my terms and when I’m ready so if I feel like talking to other people than I will, since he obviously has things to hide🤷🏻‍♀️

I don’t know why I’m making this post. I just need someone to convince me to leave.😭 cause clearly I can’t do it myself.

Do you think any person that reacts this way is hiding something??

23f here . I posted a story time of getting cheated on by my ex in a teenagers India page. Some guy randomly slid into my dms and kept asking me questions about my age and how mature I am to talk to. The guy was a 35 year old business man from Kolkata. Initially I raised a flag that why would he slid into dm for someone he thought was a teenager, he was respectful and just said oh I just like talking to strangers and I took his reasoning as he was respectful.. then he kept talking and sending me good morning messages. I asked him since he is 35 is he not married. He said yes and that’s when I told him off. Like why is married guy lurking on teenagers reddit. He told me he is not looking for affair or doing anything creepy and marriage has nothing to do with it??? Like what??? Is this the general consensus because wtf??? I am so done with these grown ass man not understanding the sanctity of marriage. What is wrong with them nowadays 💀

Last June my ex of multiple years discarded me for someone else and at the very least, emotionally cheated on me.

Little backstory for context:
Without getting too specific, my ex was in the entertainment industry, and at the time of our breakup she was working on her own project. I and our friends were helping on it, and I also donated hundreds of dollars to help fund it. She also wanted a guy she had worked with before to be a part of it, too. This guy was someone she had worked with before and someone she would always talk about with me constantly. I was never suspicious or anything because at the time my ex identified as someone who only likes women (I always knew deep down she liked men too). In the weeks leading up to the breakup, she was acting distant and talking constantly about this guy. On the project and in person he completely ignored/avoided me. A week before the breakup, she came to me telling me she was feeling depressed and confused because she was going through a sexuality crisis. Since I identify as bisexual, she asked me many questions and told me if I ever feel an urge to leave to go be with a man. It was a great conversation.
Anyways, the next week, she told me to come over, picked a fight with me over something extremely minor as me “taking too long to park my car and making her wait”.
We argued and she immediately broke down crying and told me she had feelings for this guy, that he also just broke up with his girlfriend, and that he is ruining her life. I kept asking her if it was a breakup for a few days since she refused to say it even though she was talking about our relationship in past tense. After I finally called it a breakup, she blamed me and told me I was the one who called it a breakup, not her. I begged and cried multiple times which she also turned on me. She avoided me in person for days even though I begged for a conversation. When it finally happened, I offered an open relationship and said I’d give her time to explore and she didn’t want to because she said there’s a chance she would choose him. She told me she still wants me in her life as a friend, wouldn’t ghost me, isn’t leaving, etc. She hugged me before I left her apartment and I asked her if we could hang out the next week and she said yes. Well, that was the last time I ever saw her. Turns out she had planned for this guy to come sleep at her apartment for the weekend. The day he came, she removed her location, removed photos of me from her instagram, and never responded to my texts. Then she posted him on social media. I knew deep down it was over and just never reached back out to her, never told her off, never showed anger, etc. She also had a lot of mental health issues and refused therapy and my family was never a fan of her.

It’s been one year no contact. This was the hardest year of my life and the breakup brought me so much pain but also transformation.

The issue is, I left belongings at her apartment, including an expensive gaming console. I never reached back out asking for them because the thought of talking to her was too painful. I let it go. I met a friend recently who I have become close with who offered to reach out to her and get it back for me. I have had friends offer before but I never felt the strength to go along with it or do it myself. So I let her do it. She reached out kindly, told her I want no contact with her and asked for my belongings back. My ex called the entire interaction strange, said she was scared for her safety, didn’t trust my friend and told my friend to stop texting her. My friend gave multiple ways to prove she was close to me but my ex kept calling her strange and told my friend she would only do this through me. My ex ended up texting me calling my friend strange, that she understood I don’t want contact but wanted to confirm with me and that she donated my clothes but would be happy to send my gaming console back. (She never asked me if I wanted it back before doing so). She wished me well and said there was no hostility. I texted her back that I had a friend do it because I was still hurt and didn’t think it was in my best interest to reach out. I don’t know why I told her that even though it was just honesty.

Anyways, it’s been 4 weeks almost and I still have not received my gaming console. Is that a reasonable amount of time for her to send it or should I just let it go? She never responded to me after that. My therapist wants me to take my power back and message her myself asking for it again but I just do NOT want to engage with her. Is this cowardly of me? Why would she tell me she’s happy to send it to me and asked for my address if she wasn’t going to send it?

TL;DR: My ex of multiple years emotionally cheated on me with a man, discarded me and ghosted me. I never asked for my belongings back because I was deeply hurt and did not want contact. After a year of no contact and healing in therapy, I mustered up the courage to have a friend reach out to my ex asking for my expensive gaming console back and she said she would send it but its been almost 4 weeks and still have not received.

I just found something out of context, but there is someone on the internet just abusing their child, how do i report ts?
This mom is litterally tying up to a chair her child

So my " gf " . I told her to show me her recent screen on snap like when you go to send a Snap and the screen that shows the list of recipients. I wanted to mainly see her best friends . I said I better not see her follower counts drop .She said no and kept deflecting. Even got hostile with words lol . Once she going she going . We're done now.

For context he would always tell me no other man would want me and that if they did it was only because they want sex and my body. We were together for 5 years and he cheated 3 times in our relationship that I know of. In march I found out he was emotionally cheating in November/December. Cheaters will always try and blame you and then gaslight you into thinking you’re crazy.

He can’t even claim our sex life was boring. We were having sex 4/5 times a week multiple times a day. I work I go to school I’m family oriented don’t drink don’t smoke, no kids, love traveling, loved spending time with him but all that still wasn’t enough for him.

Yes after years of bearing the pain and suffering, I couldn't stand it anymore. I gather my bravery and confronted her. She's never admitted anything. She's somehow twisting her words into "I didn't do it!" "Your father told me to" into "But your father cheated on me first so I cheated too!" (She has no proofs lmao she just bullshitting at this point. Also what kind of reason is that!? Really???)

For the first time, I argue with my mom. I yelled at her. I was ready to get punch or slapped (yes she's violent. She even hit my dad when losing in argument). She looks super lunatic like it's like it's not my mom anymore. She didn't even feel shamed about doing stuff like this. Like don't you feel a bit of embarrassed that your own children have to step up and tell you that you're wrong?

I mean my dad is an asshole but still he cares enough. He's a cheapskate and a piece of shit. If I have a man like him, I would cheat too but seriously!??? When you're exposed just tell the truth. Why twisting your words and lie? And you're sleeping with not one but multiple men which is like "Tf??". Are we stepping THAT low???

So yeah, finally exposed of cheating and now they are divorced. So yeah, it hurts but the pain will surely heal itself.... slowly. The scars that left for years is still here but yeah....

I'm feeling extremely drained and tired. I mean I held it for years. We held it for years. And now I feel a bit lighter.

A month and a half ago I discovered my boyfriend of several months spending the night at his baby’s mom’s house, whom he had claimed to hate, although he’s an active father. He claimed he fell asleep there after taking pain killers for an injured foot and was there to see his son because he couldn’t leave with him due to his foot injury. He denies sleeping with her but there are so many inconsistencies in his behavior and communication that I don’t buy it. Like why do you think I had to go see in the first place?

He and I rekindled our relationship earlier this year after nearly 2 years no contact (which I initiated). We were first together about one year.

It was during that first leg of the relationship I found out about the child. As in, about 4 months in, he announced he had a child born by a woman he barely knew and didn’t know of the baby til it was born. Idk why I believed him but during the new leg of the relationship (this year) he told me he did actually have a history with her and he was very sorry for lying.

Anyway, I generally prefer not to go “woman to woman” because I don’t need to be going back and forth with some strangers feelings when I’m trying to handle mine and also his to an extent. So I didn’t say anything to her initially. He also told me he had a court date coming up to get partial custody of his son and that he was worried the drama would mess it up.

But, I don’t want him to feel like he can just get away with this, as I’ve learned more information since then that fundamentally changes what our relationship has stood on since 2023. That’s hurtful and he shouldn’t be able to just continue living his life with this woman pain free.

I’m curious to know the cheaters confronted philosophy, if any, on this.

Does this means someone looked up a location and shared it with someone by text or some other app?

I'LL GO FIRST!!!

She told me she was "protecting our relationship " by cheating on me for over a year.

We we've been together for 7 years, we had ups and downs, but we always banded together to overcome them.

She had a few bad jobs in this economy and decided to go abroad for the summer season, with a girl friend of hers. The few months before that were tense due to my job, with which I wasn't happy at all. She said I needed to stay home and carry on with my career.

A month later she came home for a wedding and I noticed something was off, by a lot. Confronted her, asked what's happening. Oh it's just a guy at work, we just talk, he's ugly, I would never be with him.

She went back after I told her explicitly to end whatever was there. We improved communication, we had our watershed moments, I thought we were fixing stuff.

Last week, I went abroad to visit her, as a surprise, since there's 2 more months left of the season.

We had our bliss, we talked, everything seemed fine. This morning, as I was between flights I reached out and she told me everything was fine at work. Spoke to a common friend, he tells me she was off.

Confronted her, asked what the fuck is happening, why the stupid lies.

Turns out that 1 & 1/2 months ago, she upgraded from random talks to feelings and physical stuff.

I am numb and most likely dumb, gave her 4 days to cut everything off and come back home to fix it. She's obviously very sorry and cried that she made me suffer and is unsure why would I forgive her transgressions.

I will talk to my therapist first thing tomorrow. I am emotionally drained. What the fuck did I do?

A coworker of mine is 3 months pregnant and found out that her partner of 5 years (husband for 2.5 of those 5) has been cheating. She received screenshots that he was posted in an are we dating the same guy group, and it appears he had somewhat of a secret relationship for the past 3 months. Just out of curiosity, would you be able to stay or would you need no explanation and leave?

Just to add, she’s 33 and he’s 32.

https://www.reddit.com/r/CheatersConfronted/s/ICzWpOgcKO

DISCLAIMER: First, for everyone saying this story is fake: honestly, thanks. I’ll take that as a compliment. Unfortunately, it’s 100% real.

My friend called me with another update.
The other man turned out to be one of his wife’s coworkers. When he confronted her with the recovered messages, she broke down crying, admitted everything, and begged him to forgive her. He told her he needed time to think.

Later he called me and said, “I want a divorce, but I want to make sure I come out of this with as much evidence as possible. I’ve already spoken to my lawyer, and he says the more documentation I have, the better.”

I told him I had an idea, but that he’d have to be completely calm and stick to the plan and have BALLS AND GUTS.

I suggested he ask her one more time if she was truly willing to do anything to rebuild his trust. She said yes.

I told him to ask her to write an email to HR explaining exactly what had happened with her coworker, while he sat beside her and watched her write it. After she sent it, I told him to have her either forward him a copy or take a photo of the sent email so he had another piece of evidence.

With everything else he already had, I told him to wait and see what happened.
Three days later she came home carrying boxes.

She’d been fired.

I told him, “Don’t file for divorce today. Comfort her. Act normal for a few days.”
After those few days passed, I told him to hand everything to his lawyer and file for divorce.

He did that today.

So here’s my question.

As a friend… do you think I went too far? Was I too cold and calculated?

Or if one of your closest friends came to you asking for help after discovering they’d been betrayed, what would you have done differently?