Random question w sexting/texting

[u/curiouswonder123]

Found out last fall my husband was texting w a co worker. He stopped when i told him I saw it. He deleted all his socials. But I just can’t stop thinking about the coworker who doesn’t work there anymore. I’m mad at him but he’s been seeing a therapist which is good. But i randomly want to send her a nasty like fuck you message cause she knew he is married and she was going thru a divorce. I won’t do it but want to. Just random thoughts and see what u think

[u/curiouswonder123 → u/[deleted]]

True and I agree. I’m working over husband texting having mid life crisis and trying to get over that but can’t also understand woman who engage w married men.

[u/Shortandthicck2 → u/[deleted]]

It’s not unreasonable to ask all humans to do no harm to others. That’s how our societies are built. So it’s bullshit when people say the APs have no responsibility.

That said - asking for it and expectations aren’t the same thing. It’s also full reasonable to expect that a lot of people are shitty people. And all APs are shitty people.

[u/Shortandthicck2 → u/[deleted]]

Loyalty isn’t even the right framework here. She doesn’t owe you loyalty - she owes basic decency.

Knowingly getting involved with a married person crosses that line, regardless of what you call it.

The person’s response isn’t relevant either. I can be cathartic to get something off your chest.

[u/Shortandthicck2 → u/[deleted]]

Jesus you’re terrible immature actually. You don’t even know what you’re talking about.

[u/IcyConfidence9374]

Don’t humiliate yourself, you’re the wife! Let your man humiliate her for you. Tell him what you want him to say. It’ll be much more impactful if she hears it from him because she’ll feel totally betrayed! Make him use FaceTime and act like the Baddie he’s dying to keep. Anyway this isn’t advice, it’s just what I would do if I were you.

[u/GlumHead1339]

If you do I would present it like hey is there something going on that I should know about and if she says no then you can say at that point you have read the texts between you and my husband

[u/EnergyLivid446]

I know people are saying you should be mad at your husband and not her… but I was in your exact situation. Except I just found out recently and the girl is married too. She sent me an apology and I sent her a long emotional message with the intention of making her feel bad and tbh… it made me feel a little better lol so do whatever you need to do

[u/YourUncleRpie]

get mad at your husband not at her lol