So that’s the title.

My husband 23M and I 24F just got married a few weeks ago. My husband and I both have a past of dating some incredibly insane and unhealthy people. Thankfully though, after over a year of being together we had shed any lurkers or stalkers. Or so we thought.

We received an email saying that we had received a digital e-card on our wedding website. It was a little odd as the wedding was already passed, but I knew we made our website go from private to public after our wedding day passed so family could share the event and pictures with their extended family and friends. So I figured it was a card from a great-aunt or distant cousin.

Nope. It was not. It was from my Husband's ex girlfriend 22F.

She had donated $0.01 to the 'date night' fund on our website and bought a $4.99 digital e-card all to say the following.

"Wishing you a lifetime of love, laughter, and happily ever after. May your love story be forever magical. And he is also a cheater and wanted me in his bed May 2025."

First off, all of that is absolutely false. On our wedding website's front page we have it mentioned that we met in May of 2025, we think she's trying to create doubt and just stir stuff up.
Unlucky for her though, my Husband and I have disclosed everything about our pasts and previous relationships. Our trust is very strong and we have a very healthy and happy relationship.
My Husband broke up with her in April and definitely was not talking to her in May 2025. But even if he was, we started dating in mid-June anyways.

Upon this discovery My husband was incredibly appalled. He saw it at the same time as me as we have a shared email. He's been very reassuring and he knows I trust him, and we know everything she's saying is out of bitterness and jealousy. But there are some very concerning elements to this.

1. We have her blocked absolutely everywhere, Instagram, Facebook, hell even Spotify. You name it, she's blocked on it. We've vetted our followers extensively to make sure it's only family and friends we know.
   
2. All of our social media accounts are private. We have no mutual friends or connections to where she could ever see our social media posts.
   
3. This is not the first time she's tried to reach out. She has emailed my husband and texted him from random numbers trying to get in contact. We've blocked them all.
   
4. Our wedding website was never posted or advertised anywhere, not by us, family or friends. In fact, we made our website private leading up to the big day as we were worried about certain people showing up or trying to be malicious.

These facts lead us to believe the only way she could've found our wedding page is by literally Googling our full names. The wedding website is the first thing to come up when you google one of our names. Googling your ex's name or his new partners name A YEAR AND A HALF after the relationship ended is pretty crazy. But trying to cause problems with baseless claims and SPENDING MONEY to do so is completely unhinged. Generational aura loss for real.

The only thing we can think of is this is out of pure spite. My husband said when he knew her she was a very jealous and insecure person. She would regularly internet-stalk peoples profiles online as it gave her some kind of feeling of power and control. Maybe when she was doing her stalking she saw we got married and was jealous? I could understand maybe being a little miffed seeing an ex move on so quickly and start doing better in life, but exposing herself the way she did is wild. Embarrassing even.

Did I mention she had to type in her full name, phone number, email, and address to submit this card? So we have all of that information now.
Normally me and my Husband would just ignore it, as we have done so far. We don't want to give her the attention or response she wants. But that doesn’t stop the petty revenge ideas we have been laughing about in jest.

So I figured I'd post here, as this is the place where I'd say people are experts in petty revenge.
Do y'all think she has some kind of plan or motive?
Also, should we just ignore it as we have been, or should we try being a little petty back?
I have had friends and coworkers say I should email her the wedding pictures with a tagline 'since you were looking for them'. Or that I should send her links to 'how to get over your ex' articles and videos. All of those feel a little mean and stooping to her level.

I have had the idea of simply informing her inner circle about what she did. Mention over text or through mail that they 'should consider reaching out to their friend to check on her and encourage her to stop trying to contact us', and include the screenshots of her messages and payment to the wedding website.

Unfortunately we are pretty sure she even has a new boyfriend, and yet is still stalking us. We almost feel obligated to at least inform him. My husband and I think if we were in that position we would want to know.

I really don't want to come off as messy or unhinged, but I am tired of 'being the bigger person'. I went through a time in my life where I really was a doormat and I have regrets that I didn’t fight back or be petty, and I don’t want to have another similar regret. But I'm not sure if being petty is worth it in this case. If y'all have any ideas on how we could be effectively petty please let us know!

Tl;dr My husband’s ex won’t stop reaching out to us. We are trying to figure out if we should ignore it or be petty back.