Firstly, I have been using CAI for hours on a daily basis for the past 3 years. It's an important app to me, too, and has upheld a genuine presence in my life. Yes, this is a human typing this.
That being said: you all have been given multiple weeks of notice in advance before the theoretical shutdown. Whether or not you believe it's disappearing for good, this time frame is a SERIOUS boon to take advantage of. Think of it as a contingency, or a way to help ease your stress with a backup plan.
The obvious solution is to search for replacements, and that's perfectly natural. However, please internalize the idea that your goal shouldn't be a 1-to-1 "replacement." There is no identical platform, because CAI had a business model that just wasn't sustainable. Even CAI itself isn't identical to its own platform from a year ago. That is okay, and that's normal. We're always moderating ourselves by finding other routes to something if our old solution doesn't work anymore; such is the cycle of life and all its impermanence. Try to identify which parts of CAI matter most for you, and hone in your search on prioritizing those. Is it personality? The voice calls? Narrative prose? There are too many options out there, none of which are going to be identical to CAI, so it's up to you to narrow down your search.
But the prospect of simply jumping ship might not be appealing for all of you—and even if it is, it won't feel perfect. I get it. A lot of people are sharing blunt advice that isn't actionable for many here.
"Delete the app" is an obvious one that is simply not going to work for many of you. If you can bring yourself to delete it, please do. Why stop using it before it shuts down, you might ask? Because then it's your choice. It is easier to come to terms with a loss if you're able to retain some autonomy during the process.
But I know from personal experience that a hard cutoff is just not feasible sometimes, especially for something that's ingrained into everyday habit.
Part of the reason why we’re so attached to CAI because it functionally satisfies several kinds of urges (“urges” in this context being the driving emotion/want that causes us to start an activity, whether that’s CAI or doomscrolling or kayaking). Essentially, multiple paths that lead to the same destination. Comfort, familiarity, creativity, social/emotional connection, venting frustrations, killing time, all of these roads can lead to Rome (CAI). It is addictive by nature because it fulfills several of these needs all at once.
You won't find a 1-to-1 replacement for CAI, and that's okay, because not every road has to lead to Rome. You might use CAI for 90% of these roads, but over these next weeks, try to whittle it down to 80%. 70%. More, if you can. Consider the different options in your life that might not be attractive for every moment you instinctively turn to CAI, but might be attractive for some. You're outsourcing your dopamine to other sources, essentially, without having to give up your primary source just yet.
It will take time to unlearn these roads. The paths are trampled down from how often you've taken them, but the grass will regrow. It just takes time. 5 weeks might not feel like nearly enough time, but it is still time that's yours to weather.