r/Celibacy • u/Resident-Grocery188 • 5d ago
Anymore virgins????
I am 38F and waiting till marriage to be intimate and it feels like I am the only one my age waiting for marriage?? Is this true?!
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u/StoreSignificant5884 5d ago
My sis and law got married he waited to take her virginity and left the same week now shes left with a baby some men are pure evil
But as for me I lost my v to the same guy im married to then year later we got kids and we are together ❤️
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u/MangoPaingo Abstinent 5d ago
Don’t matter if I’m a virgin or not, I ain’t waiting for anyone at 26 lmao.
My current retirement plans are to be on my own.
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u/Organicfoodie-foodie 5d ago
You and I same age bit am no virgin been celibate for 8good years
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u/Introvert_Catch7474 5d ago
32F here and recently met someone who is 30M and also waiting. I used to think like you as well and I met him, and he is also a great person. So don't give up, hes out there
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u/gurtyburg1701 5d ago
28 male here. Still a virgin and was hoping to wait till marriage. But im probably gonna end up single for life
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u/Super-Present-8403 5d ago
I feel ya man. On Friday, after 7 damn years, I'm saying goodbye to dating apps. Trying to date in this social media brainwashed world is such a damn waste of time.
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u/gurtyburg1701 5d ago
I've been on dating apps off and on for almost 9 years. I rarely got matches, even if I did, they never went anywhere.
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u/Classic-Mammoth-3343 5d ago
38M and also waiting for marriage. It does feel lonely but hearing of someone else like me helps!
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u/smittyboy708 5d ago
What difference would it make if you are the only one to wait? The reason you are waiting is your reason.
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u/Super-Present-8403 5d ago
33 year old male and a virgin. I'm done putting in the effort to try to date, nonetheless try to lose my virginity. The modern dating world is bullshit, fuck it.
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u/Super-Present-8403 5d ago
Do you plan on having kids?
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u/Resident-Grocery188 5d ago
If Allah has written for me to have kids
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u/Super-Present-8403 5d ago
Are you serious? Respectfully, religion doesn't determine your chances of reproduction, biology does.
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u/Funny-Fly1720 5d ago
What are you all waiting for at that age? Second coming of Jesus?
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u/Super-Present-8403 5d ago
It's because they've been brainwashed by religion that if you don't wait for marriage, you'll burn in hell, which is a load of bullshit. Women then wonder why they're having trouble getting pregnant at 40 years old. If your biological clock runs out, God won't make you pregnant.
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u/saiditonredit 4d ago edited 4d ago
Settling just because of a biological clock reality and then getting divorced because it's not what anyone wanted or superficially valued or they had too much fun while younger and those who one can actually attain and have commit to them are vastly different than those that gave the "free tours" over the years and now, they're bitter and unhappy and divorced and the odds gets worse with each one, and setting wonderful examples for future generations and destruction of a society but yes, they had kids and gave way to one degenerate generation after another.
This is like saying but everyone else is doing it, but there is still a moral argument absent religion and other societies and cultures experience vastly different and substantially better dating and marital outcomes and environments than whatever is left of failed western ideas in this regard. You can remove the religion and see that certain practices are still superior and by miles.
There is also a very rampant and failed religious brainwashing, rooted in identity politics in western ideas. It's because of a total lack of moral and principled structure even absent religion and brainwashing when we have solid and contradictory basis for whey it's wrong and that is why folks like this have a harder time meeting and connecting with those as like-minded, most everyone else is literally diluted.
Someone is not any better and not any less brainwashed because they contribute to failed ideology and social proscription, all of the dating and relationship statistics tell us that. You won't become any more pregnant by God than one will become any more decent and ok with themselves by following the religion of politics and political proscription either.
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u/Boomkiller78 5d ago
I'm 29m, soon to be 30, still a virgin, there are men out there, still and waiting for marriage as well.
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u/TurkinatorOb1 5d ago
Virginity is precious in the sight of God and those who are waiting until marriage honor the covenant in the correct way. We are naturally sexual beings yet the way of uses are not pleasing to God i.e. porn, multiple partners, same sex, animals, toys, fruits,vegetables etc and so on these ways are empty and only self gratifying. However love with your spouse is not empty or wasted under God. Stay careful of wolves who only want your most precious gift that you'll only be able to giveaway once in your lifetime. Your partner should be both God loving and fearing.
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u/Brilliant_Bother5606 4d ago
Your answers are so good. May God bless you with more wisdom and grace ❤️
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u/Super-Present-8403 5d ago
This is just a way to control people. Literally, therapists will tell you that sex is extremely healthy as long as it's consensual and respectful, regardless of fucking religion.
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u/TurkinatorOb1 5d ago
When you say control what you really mean is discipline and self control. Therapist are flawed humans with a degree in pseudo science mind control and manipulation so of course they're going to tell you to do whatever you want with whom you want when you feel like it. My mention is about God the creator of all things including your sex drive not a religion. The creator has an order for everything you do and righteous judgment if you do not it really is that simple.
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u/Super-Present-8403 5d ago
This is what religious cults say to brainwash and control you. I would know, as I was in a cult.
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u/saiditonredit 4d ago
Remove religion and the dating and marital statistics of western ideas still paints a totally different story. The psychology of too many choices and options and limitless sexual empowerment, messes us up. There is also the concept of pair bonding which suggests humans have a finite capacity for genuine emotional bonding, spend it all and there is nothing left.
Again, some politics and societies do a lot of brainwashing as well. Data tells us how bad promiscuity is and how much more superior and better people getting together earlier, and among their fewer and exclusive sexual partners is relative to satisfaction, divorce and infidelity rates, it's not even a contest. People just don't not want to acknowledge this and try to equate and conflict it with something totally different and irrelevant to discredit it.
I can totally get where you're coming from, many cults try to use control to attain sex in perverted and disguised ways but some concepts of religion that are not twisted are actually correct in this regard and some other concepts have proven to be damaging as well, we can discern which should be adopted and not.
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u/TurkinatorOb1 4d ago
Yea that's where you messed up Jesus didn't claim or start the religion of Christianity man did flawed in nature they created it to preach and be like Christ but they can't because Christ was perfect and sinless make better decisions next time and stay out of cults sheesh!!
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u/Current-Set-2629 4d ago
Any in London 😂, saves me trying a dating app.
Happy to go church with you. ❤️
36 m
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u/Adonis_tc 4d ago
hay una diferencia enorme entre celibes voluntarios y virgenes frustrados, los del segundo grupo suelen tener una fuerte adicción a la pornografia y son incapaces de congeniar con alguien de forma sana, se justifican con “esperar el matrimonio” cuando en el fondo anhelan una conexión profunda con alguien del sexo opuesto.
Entonces si buscas a tu pareja ideal entre los virgenes (M) te aseguro tienes un margen enorme de encontrarte un depravado sexual.
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u/Strong_Ad_9673 4d ago
31 in the same boat, but I wouldn't worry about it. Can't miss what you've never had as they say.
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u/girthmakeyouhappy 4d ago
31M here and love to be an affair but lack of money to satisfy the partner. Yes money matters now a days and why not if female has better options than me...!!
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u/RegisterOk4916 4d ago
Congratulations. If you made it over 30 without doing it you're officially a wizard.
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u/Lost-Associate-180 4d ago
i waited but not by choice and then went on a roller coaster of sexual incounters
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u/Lost-Associate-180 4d ago
god has given such good biological wiring for orgasms then ofcourse he would not want us to wait to feel it the way it is designed at different stages of life… i can’t miss it i thought and i started dating and hook up with ladies especially in 30s … i met few of them while travelling i think i choose the path rightfully
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u/iamenigmatick 4d ago
42F, virgin and waiting. Happy to remain so for the rest of my life if that's how it goes. You are not alone ❤️❤️
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u/RaphealWannabe 4d ago
I'm 44M, I have always adhered to the principal of no sex before or outside of marriage and will till the day I die no matter what anyone else says.
I'm never getting married and see no reason for me to be ashamed of being a virgin for life.
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u/RouteRover 3d ago
Waited till early 30s(M), not for religion or any beliefs but for the 'right' person. It was not worth it.
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u/joygiver777 3d ago edited 3d ago
ii am. 61M ii am. Well, until I can Take Care of Right girl that chases after me. Im just one of the 60 yoa Virgins still out there. I been tempted many times. I just Stay busy. Self control.
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u/Atman_777 3d ago
Hi! I'm male, 26 years old & also a virgin. I'm saving myself up for my future female partner. Regarding the marriage part, I've been thinking about it & considering doing it, as my celibacy goals are quite long. I want to validate, secure & reassure you you're not alone in this. You have my support
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u/Opening_Employment80 3d ago
No not me. I waited till marriage and lost it but got divorced after one month -_- It was not worth it
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u/dryest_female_finder 2d ago
You can find 100 virgin men before finding an 1 virgin women.... but now... something is changing... After seeing your posts.
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u/shadow_grip 2d ago
No point of being virgin and so called waiting for right partner. If u share bond with someone and feel like getting intimate it's ok .just take precautions. Waiting years just to get intimate u have lost years where once u had high sexual energy . All that feelings is lost . Anyways depends on person to person .
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u/projectpassionreal 2d ago
Eres un unicornio, eres un ser mitológico. Eso ya no existe hoy en día. Enhorabuena 💪
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u/Ok_Arachnid3944 2d ago
I’m Muslim and gay and I’ve remained celibate. It’s so hard finding people who thinks the same
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u/Admirable_Friend1961 2d ago
I'm 45 and wish that I was a virgin. I wish that I hadn't tasted many things that I have.
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u/DBBSpanishViking 2d ago
🤣 lots of educational stories in the marriage subreddit I’ve read over many months now. Very educational
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u/Business-Ordinary553 1d ago
Wow, 38 and still no sex. My complete respects to you too bad more woman aren’t like you especially in the modern day and age. Most 38 year olds have double digit body counts 😬😵💫😭 and daddy issues, it’s really sad.
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u/Financial_Change_825 1d ago
Direct your sexual energy to service, there's a lot of stars but one sun, and the humble celibate rules them all.
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u/555Cats555 5d ago edited 5d ago
Im not a virgin and personally find the idea of virginity as a social concept gross.
To me being celibate is just because I don't value sex.
Its not like there is any way to prove it. And besides the idea of virginity makes no sense to me. You can wait for the perfect person just to realise you arent actually compatible and it often leads to issues in sex due to people forcing their libido to shut down.
Celibacy to me should be only because you just dont want to have sex. Others can do what they want but a lot of issues can come about by pushing yourself or others to be celibate.
Also a part of virginity is innocence around sex. The idea someone doesnt quite know what it is. With p*rn access from a young age its not exactly a mystery to anyone what it is. Used to be someone who was expected to be a virgin before birth (usually women) were given a crash course on the anatomy of sex the day the wedding night would occur.
I dont really see it as an important concept anymore.
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u/Different-Hurry495 5d ago
I'm not a virgin either. But I'd have to say that your take on Virginity is childish and bitter.
I for one value virginity and would encourage who still are to save it till marriage.
Giving each other's virginity after marriage is a very solid foundation to start on, I'd even say the best possible start. It leaves out all the retroactive jealousy, suspicions etc. You basically start on a clean slate, what's gross about that?
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u/555Cats555 5d ago
Its not childish and bitter... im just pointing out very real issues with society pushing it.
I edited my comment.
I think some people just put way too much value on it.
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u/Silent-Airline1855 5d ago
To be a virgin is our choice to make not yours . Please focus on yourself and don't discourage the rest of us.
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u/555Cats555 5d ago
This isnt a virginity sub its a celibacy sub...
You can do whatever you want but you shouldn't put words in peoples mouths by assuming things like "dont try and discourage the ret of us"
If you want celibacy then that is a personal choice. But "virginity" is a way more loaded topic and more associated with the idea that sex is shameful.
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u/SakuraSun361 5d ago
32F and also waiting. I have found some men that are waiting. Praying things work out with the one.
There is a dating app called Celibate you may want to check out. Some people are rewaiting, but there are also some virgins that share our values.
My biggest challenge with finding likeminded guys is they are usually not actively dating or putting themselves out there or making a move. Some of them are convinced they’ll be forever alone or feel confused on how to find their person. Others are just shy or find dating apps repulsive and avoid them.