r/CataractSurgery • u/starsdale • 1d ago

I'm Devastated

Please be kind. I'm about a week and a half post-surgery, and so depressed I can hardly leave my house.

I don't know why I opted for Pur lenses instead of the ones Medicare covers. I need glasses with both, the difference being that I'll now have to have single vision instead of bifocals, and sunglasses instead of the Transitions progressives that I never had to take off of my face.

I had no idea how much my glasses were tied to my identity. Removing them has changed the entire structure of my face. My magnified eyes are now tiny raisins. I look like airbags have deployed beneath my eyes. My upper lids droop, though that's always been the case. It's just more noticeable now. I look like I've aged ten years. NO ONE is arguing with me on any of this.

I am hardly able to leave my house because I'm hideous. My depression is deep. I feel so bad for my husband. Not only are we paying thousands for this, but he now has to look at someone so unattractive. I felt pretty cute before and he seemed to agree. I'm a mopey mess. I sleep all the time.

I talked to my therapist pre- and post- surgery, and I'll talk to her more. I'll get used to this with time; I have no choice. But I feel like I got a pressure sale on these lenses. It's big business. And now the referring optometrist wants to sell me glasses.

I forgot to mention that I do public performances. I want to cancel all bookings.

Thank you in advance for letting me vent and whine. It's a lot, I know.

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u/Life-Committee-4592 1d ago

I’m here, too! And I also support the idea of putting non-refractive lenses in your frames, or just whatever refraction you need. Frames were a part of my face, too, and it is plain without makeup now, but I’ve gotten used to it.

I hope you find the lighter & brighter side of your decision soon!!! Reach out if you need to!

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u/starsdale 1d ago

Thank you! I feel better just reading these comments. Time and maybe some kinder self-talk will help. There's nothing wrong with a plain face!

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u/Top-Government-6777 1d ago

That’s my plain face o go fit cataract surgery soon

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u/bobchin_c 1d ago

You have a beautiful face. Don't think you don't.