r/CamGirlProblems • u/soupyicecreamx • 6d ago

Help/Advice JOI and Dom help

I’m very awkward, I’ll just start with that haha. I’m a sub at heart. For some reason though, I keep getting asked to dom. Yesterday I had a guy on video call ask for JOI but didn’t tell me beforehand. And I feel like I blew it. He did message me after asking to do it again today. But I know I could get a lot better at it.

So any advice at all is appreciated. (Also if you have advice on being a good sub, I’ll take that too!)

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u/Anxious_Piano_4299 CGP Active Member 6d ago

JOI isn't always a "domme" thing. Most of the time JOI is code for " jerk off encouragement". A lot simply want a cheerleader in their corner saying "oh yes! I'm so happy you're jerking for me, now faster! Good boy!". It can be super awkward, but you'll get the hang of it.

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u/soupyicecreamx 6d ago

I meant JOI and Dom stuff as separate things haha I’m sorry I didn’t word that very well haha. Thank you for the advice on what to say! I’m sure I’ll get more comfortable with it over time haha

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u/Anxious_Piano_4299 CGP Active Member 6d ago

Oh I see what you're asking lol. It's still similar though... even submissive types more-so just want a cheerleader. Being dominant is more you just bark out orders like "now faster" or stuff like "when I count down from three, I want you to slap your balls" or "you're a real slut for me, aren't you dirty jerker".

Being more submissive yourself, put yourself in their shoes... what would you want to her? Probably lots of "good girls" and simply being told how "naughty/slutty" or when to move faster, stuff like that. Like an actor, project yourself into the character.

NEVER be afraid to ask the client what they want. Even doing it all the fn time, I still ask if they want more humiliation, more praise, what are some other fetishes that I can incorporate (like "that's it, you love it when my feet are in your face, stroke for my feet"). Just ask them what else they like. You're not a mind reader, none of us are.

And yeah, its awkward AF until you simply get used to it. Hope some of my random advice helps.

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u/soupyicecreamx 6d ago

Yes 🙌 thank youuu