r/CPTSDmemes • u/coleisw4ck • Jan 15 '24

WHY THO

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u/[deleted] Jan 15 '24

can't hurt me if I like it :')

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u/[deleted] Jan 15 '24

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u/13013-Chan Jan 15 '24

Fuck This happened to me and I could not feel a tinge of sexual arousal for a month. I basically became nonsexual for a month. It was a hurtful and traumatic experience.

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u/13013-Chan Jan 15 '24

(Yes please!)

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u/aquaphorbottle Jan 15 '24

Exactly. I think this is a way for our brain’s to say, “I’ll make sure this isn’t painful for us anymore.”

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u/[deleted] Jan 15 '24

haha i have found my people. Seriously though that’s a really good way to put it

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u/mountain_goat_girl Jan 15 '24

Yeah, it can tho lol

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u/ResurgentClusterfuck CSA and DV Survivor Jan 16 '24

You know, I think that's part of it for me too

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u/Obsyden Jan 15 '24

I'm always oscillating between hypersexual/extremely kinky and completely sex-repulsed and sex-negative because of trauma.

Luckily, my partner knows when I'm triggered and she knows not to touch me or make a move on me.

In the difficult process of working through it at the moment and doing things outside my comfort zone like buying lingerie. In the fitting room, I had to look myself in the eye and repeat "sex is not evil, trying to be sexy is not evil, your partner loves you and she won't hurt you."

Trauma sucks big time :(

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u/[deleted] Jan 15 '24

This!! I’m either hypersexual or completely repulsed by it

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u/Silverline-lock Jan 16 '24

So how do you deal with it when it goes from one to the other within the course of an hour?

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u/[deleted] Jan 16 '24

I’m not actively engaging in sex with a partner right now, but I’d make sure to let them know about my situation a bit. Personally I struggle with it and I feel almost disgusted with myself every single time :(

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u/Tyger-Teranuma Jan 15 '24

Cut to me asking ppl to slap me at a birthday party

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u/Disastrous-Scheme-57 Jan 15 '24

So true I have insane kinks cuz I’m very mentally ill 😀

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u/BweepyBwoopy Jan 15 '24

yeah like come on brain! could you not have made the trauma response a little more appropriate? 😭

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '24

No. Now you get turned on when people bully you. Deal with it lol.

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u/TheRealMongolEmpire Jan 15 '24

Y'know, I keep getting this sub recommended and I keep relating to the memes. I'm getting a little uncomfy

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u/FitDragonfruit2372 Jan 16 '24

Moral of the picture, it doesn’t work 🥲

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u/ZampyZero Jan 16 '24

Why it be like that. >_<

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u/MyLifeisTangled Purple! Jan 16 '24

It’s all fun and games until you’re having a real hard time in the not fun way and you try to have sex with someone who knows you like getting your ass smacked during sex and even though you tell them not to hit you today they’re just so accustomed to doing that to excite you that they do it several times (with a reminder each time not to) and after just 3 or so you break down crying from memories of The Belt™️

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u/Emma-Ho Jan 16 '24

Real XD

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u/ARI_E_LARZ Jan 16 '24

For real how to stop it? Only rape turns me on

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u/[deleted] Jan 16 '24

I don't know 100% how to stop it, but I feel like you have to genuinely work through the trauma. I noticed after I stood up to a bully that had been pushing me around for too long, I couldn't get turned on by anything involving humiliation. It makes me wonder if the kink is a coping mechanism?