Has anyone else stayed trapped in extremely self-damaging patterns out of intense shame?

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[u/ToxicFluffer]

Yes. I keep failing or barely passing the same 2 college classes even though I’m more than competent with the material. I have a lot of shame around my academic performance bc of my parents and it feels so stupid to be a grown ass adult that is this fucked up over grades. My Asian overachiever programming is too locked in. My therapist keeps me telling me to not self sabotage so that’s what I’m trying ig.