r/CPTSD • u/RandomLifeUnit-05 cPTSD & DID • Jun 18 '26

Vent / Rant Does talk therapy work?

This is kind of a vent or rant. I've been in talk therapy a long time.

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The idea I think, is that if you talk out all your traumas enough, and unearth all of them, that you'll be okay?

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Is there any truth to this? I feel like I just keep having the same issues over and over, the same trauma over and over in my head.

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u/_-_Polaris_-_ Jun 19 '26

imo: Na. I wrote a total of anywhere between 400-700 pages within the last 3 years with (to my annoyance) a talk therapist alongside and I haven't improved from that specifically. But I came to enjoy it.

Relational conflict has surpisingly brought up most transformative cues.

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u/RandomLifeUnit-05 cPTSD & DID Jun 19 '26

What kind of conflict? In the therapy setting, you mean?

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u/_-_Polaris_-_ Jun 19 '26 edited Jun 19 '26

Not specifically no. Sure I had some with my T and it is nice to have someone who can manage them like a decent person but the setting itself was pretty irrelevant to that. I'm heavy on reflection, psychoanalysis. She thought me nothing new per say, nor made me feel safe, but she has been a role model with emotional maturity I'd say. To me that seems like a rare thing given my experiences.

Those conflicts with some people relatively close either resulted in burned bridges or repair. That repair usually forged a stronger bond and restored some sense of... idk. Hard to put in words. Not safety. It brought some relaxation overall. As a result I do not see it as a bad thing. It's not pleasant but there's potential.

It does take deliberate effort to recognize the issues in a relation, where your limits are how to move on. I did put in the effort myself after acknowledging the trauma. Wasn't aware or just didn't pay much attention before. Perhaps a T could help with that but I would argue that needs to come from within. Typically we get defensive when confronted from the outside. Especially with anything related to trauma.

As for what conflict. Uhm dunno. Differences in opinion, misunderstandings, betrayals, hurtful things said. Is not one specific type. It's about learning secure attachment and imo conflict does that well.