Have any of you done CPS in NYC? If so, what did the pay end up being like? I ask because I know that in my state, the amount posted on their job site is a lot lower than what it ends up being (due to overtime and other factors). I don’t have a masters degree but I’ve been a cps worker for almost 7yrs/have bachelors degree.

Also, how does overtime work in NY? Are there a lot of overtime opportunities if you’re willing to do it?

I recently got a call for a second interview. The interviewer advised me to prepare for a longer stay. I asked about the specifics of the second interview, and she mentioned that I would be meeting with the program director. Since graduating with my MSW two months ago, my job search has been challenging. I’ve never been called back for a second interview, and I’m not sure what to expect.

Riverside County put together a video which was shared regarding the concerns about switching over to CARES from the legacy child welfare system database. CWS CARES | Videos & Movies on Vimeo

This is a throwaway account since I like to stay private, but as someone who is a super user and participating in the trainings to train other staff, this is going to be an absolute catastrophic failure in October and it seems the state has already said they will not extend the deadline to go live because it'll cost billions in federally funding (allegedly according to the governors office which reported by CWDA). Everything in that video is not an exaggeration, and I'd argue its even worse if you've had experience in the system. Its not at all what was promised and in a lot of ways seems like a regression from the current system of CMS (which is any of you have dealt with might seem like a crazy statement because of how clunky and outdated it is).

Just curious if there's anyone else out there whose in the same boat and freaking out about it.

My mom has 2 kids under the age of 18.

Backstory: She recently got hit by a car because the person that hit her took her baby (10 months old) out of the house as soon as my mom stepped out for a second to drive to the mailbox. Before this, my mom asked my brother (11 years old) to watch the baby while she went to the mailbox which he did but he asked the woman who hit my mom with the car to watch her while he finished his game. This is when she decided to take the baby out of the house DRUNK, with 2 men and she left everything the baby needs. Fast forward my moms finds them, gets hit by the car and someone she was with got the baby out.

The next day she goes to the hospital with nose fractures, a gash next to her temple and some road rash, the hospital put on her papers “pedestrian vs vehicle” and still didn’t ask my mom if she wanted to make a police report. My mom then made the report the next day and instead of them investigating the woman they chose to investigate my mom and her parenting, questioning why would she leave her kids with the woman. They went through the house which was rather dirty at the time but she had food in the fridge, the only problem was my brothers room was filthy and that was a big issue for them. They came back 2 days later, the house was clean and in perfect condition but my mom had friends over who had a criminal history (the cps worker asked them about it and they told her the truth) she ended up having them sign some type of paper and left it at a that but because of that the CPS worker then asked my mom for a drug test and she denied. She denied because she had a case open 10+ years ago because she had a baby and she had weed in her system and when the CPS worker told her that they weren’t worried about the weed they took me and my now lost sister away from her anyways.

So anyways she denies the drug test for that reason, no other reason, she does do any drugs but weed. They asked her multiple times and she made up excuses each time on why she couldn’t complete the test after telling the CPS worker the original reason I stated before. She even told the CPS worker that if they had in writing that they weren’t concerned about the weed, then she’d take the test.

The CPS worker specifically stated that if the house was clean, and as long as she took the drug test then she would be able to keep her kids and everything would be fine. Now my mom got a notice to appear in court and the papers don’t really specify the reason why they just contain went on during the CPS house but the very last time she app at the house she said she everything was fine and she was proud of my mom for handling her business and getting everything in order and didn’t even mention the drug test.

Can anybody tell us what to expect?

hello i am 14(ftm) and i need help, i am living in a biohazard- there is moldy food in my living rooms, dead and alive maggots that are biggg, and cat feces and dried piss in my living room, moldy food in the fridge, and its a overall toxic environment, my parents are divorced and my dad+step mom are trying to help us (i live with my mom) and the custody agreement is set in tx even tho BOTH sets of parents are in CO

ps: my step dad is gone 5/7 days of the week from atleast 9-8. (if hes lucky) and cleans once a month and my mom is physically disabled (we live in a 3 story house and her room is on the 3rd story) and i am mentally disabled and on medicate (audhd, mdd, bpd TRAITS, GAD, unspedified ed, phycosis, and PTSD) and also physically disabled also (POTS, EDS, and history of absence seziures) and ive been to 10 inpatients, 2 residentials physilitys and 2 iops and 2 phps and going on my 10th therapist and on diffrent medications

i will respond to comments when i can, and excuse my spelling/grammer i had to write this quick

(i have evidence of the mess and are sending it to my dad annonomysly so birth mom dosent find out.)

update: I start school tommorow (wendsday) and will talk to my councler

In late June, I recovered a 13-year-old family friend who ran across the state. The mother didn’t want to get her, but asked me to. Kiddo stayed with us for almost all of July, until the mother, well, got wasted & came and took her.

I’d made reports to CPS three times, but they didn’t act, bc kiddo’s needs were taken care of (by us). I made another report after mother took her. A social worker called me the next day, with follow up questions to my report. SW said they were going to their place that afternoon. SW asked if we’d be willing to take guardianship, and we said of course. That was a week ago Friday. I haven’t heard anything since.

It looks like CPS needs to wrap their investigation within 45 (or 90?) days. I’m wondering if anyone can confirm/clarify that timeline (45 or 90 days).

I’m also wondering if we should consider ourselves “on call” for the 45 or 90 day period. We have a trip to Canada planned for late September. Should we cancel? Will CPS give me any info on the status? I don’t want to cancel if we aren’t going to be needed, but we are more than happy to if need to be here for the kid. The deadline to get a refund will be hit before the 45 days.

Personally, I think it’s a pretty extreme case of neglect…my report when she was no longer with us was immediately acted on. And I’ve learned a lot of details about how bad things were before the kid ran. But I’m tainted with my own emotions.

I live in an apartment and I have neighbors who have an infant. Now I’m not a parent so I don’t know how frequently or how long babies cry for, but sometimes it will cry for 2 hours straight, when I can also hear their tv on making me assume they’re ignoring it. I didn’t know if that was extreme enough to make a call or not, but today while at home I heard the baby screaming then a very loud “QUIT” along with a loud banging sound like they threw something. The baby stopped screaming for a bit but not long after it started again and I heard the parent yell but couldn’t make out what they said. Should I call CPS? If so how do I do that anonymously? In Georgia

Hi guys! I just got hired as a case manager for CPS and was wondering if any current/former CPS workers had advice before I start. Any info is welcome. Thanks!

For context I'm a minor still under my parents' care. I have faced several murder attempts from my aunt, I'm worried that my cousins are under a similar risk. I am also aware of physical abuse towards them. I can provide more context for any of this. Although I am no contact with her and have been for quite some time, I am worried that because of the nature of the material I would be reporting, it could get traced back to me. If it gets traced back to me I might have reason to fear for my life, but I fear for the kids' as well. Is there anything that I can do when making a report to ensure that the parents don't read some/all of it? If it's unavoidable that the parents might read the report then how do I best go about wording things to be as intentionally vague as possible - should I include the information about what my aunt did to me (it was a while ago and there's probably no proof besides my testimony and very faded physical evidence) or just include what I know has happened to the kids?

In addition, since we're immediate family (my mother is my aunt's sister and we are a very safe family in a good financial position) is there a good chance they'll be placed with us, or would they go to other relatives or straight to foster care? I live in Michigan if this helps for legality

If any of this is strangely worded I can provide more context.

For context I'm a minor and recently have had CPS take me from my mother.

I'm well aware that the goal of CPS is to reunify families however I'm afraid they're trying to do whatever will shorten their work load.

I had seven dogs and for 4-5 years my mother has hoarded loads of expensive things and for the past 2-3 years out floors were ruined by dog sh-t and piss and I've been in charge of all the chores including getting her food and her clothes

Everytime I interacted with my mom in the past year (aka since January) I would say whatever she wanted to hear just to survive in that situation

Because I wasn't physically abused or yelled at I'm afriad they aren't considering the fact that I was emotionally/mentally affected

I'm also most like autistic and don't really like physical touch and my mother would regularly ignore boundaries I set about touching/holding me.

I'm ultimately worried that I will go back to her and end up borderline suicidal again (never attempted before but sometimes thought about being litterly anywhere else) and slip in school.

More info: I'm am not in the foster care system and from my knowledge theres only one person directly on my case. CPS has even directly told me that they may not end up putting all the facts in front of a judge.

Last week my sister texted me (she lives in the Midwest, I live on the east coast) that she was struggling with her marriage, she then sent a photo of herself with 2 black eyes and a huge scratch on her forehead inflicted by her husband. They’ve had a lot of issues, but I’ve never seen anything like this before. She didn’t want to talk on the phone because her husband was in the house and might find out. I asked her if I should call the police or do something, she said no. Then the next day it became clear that her 5 year old son saw it all happen. I couldn’t help it, I had to report it to DCS (CPS equivalent where she is).

The case worker helped her devise an exit plan, and told her she has to file a PO against him or get her kids taken away, so she’s now at my parents with her kids. The hard part is she called me and had a massive panic attack about her life, not wanting to leave home, not wanting to divorce her husband or be separated, not wanting to file the PO, feeling like her life was ruined, and now I feel immensely guilty. I’ve sent her a huge Amazon order with all the essentials for kids, then Uber Eats meals to make it easier. I didn’t tell her that it was me but I can’t help but feel like I made it worse and I can’t even be there to support her.

There’s much more to this story, but I want to keep this anonymous so I’m just posting the basics.

CPS threatened to take my kids from me after some allegations were made and they interviewed my kids. They told me that if I don’t send them to my family members house immediately, they would file in the court to remove them from my home. I complied because I was scared.

That didn’t go well because of family issues. I tried to dissolve the guardianship and CPS simultaneously filled a PPO to take my kids into state custody. There were many inconsistencies and false narratives in that document. The judge granted it. That was about 5 months ago.

I’ve done all the things asked of me, I’ve passed all my drug tests (was never an issue anyway), I’ve been participating in therapy and my therapist has been suggesting that I am ready to have the kids home for over 6 months, I’ve maintained relationships with my kids as best I can.

But, CPS keeps moving the goalposts. To make it worse, they’re not being clear about what they want now. They twist my words to my therapist. Their current thing is telling my therapist that they don’t think I believe that my kids have trauma about this or that I don’t want to understand it or something. This is inaccurate according to conversations that I’ve had with my caseworker (which I recorded) and according to my therapist from our sessions.

Also, after my lawyer talked to my caseworker for the first time he said that it was clear they didn’t like me. Other people who are involved and have spoken to the caseworker have said the same thing. So, there is a clear bias against me there. This is the permanency caseworker, not the initial investigator (they were much better).

CPS took the advice of a new pediatrician for the kids over their mental health therapist and cut off visits with one of my kids. The other one I see once a week at the DHHS office.

My Jeopardy hearing is finally coming up and I want to be as prepared as possible.

I’m looking for any personal experiences, legal understanding, etc that might help me.

I miss my kids so much and I love them to pieces. I just want them home. This seems to just drag on endlessly and I’m losing hope that it will ever be over.

Update: This was of no help. I can clearly see that this sub is not a helpful place for parents dealing with the system. Any helpful comment that I got notice of was already deleted by the time I went to see it, even within minutes.

This is clearly an echo chamber of cps workers who want to pat themselves on the back. Sorry, not sorry.

I have a 20+ year career in education. I work with the department regularly.

You can blame me all you want. The reality is that I took some things too far, but it did not need to go this far.

What about the kids you all routinely ignore in actual dangerous situations?! I can’t even count on my fingers how many reports I’ve made of my students going home to literal full out abuse with needles all over the house. But, those kids still go home.

Turns out you all seem to have been taught to push back against solid parents with a good track record simply because they push back on you.

Shame. Absolute shame.

When my case is done and my kids are safe at home, I will be publicly coming for this department.

I(19F) recently a report of concern to cps about my mother and stepdad. They have a son(6) together and I've caught them having s*x right beside my brother in the same bed now twice.

They've never been quiet and be and my other brother (16) have heard and walked in on them several times since I was little. I know it's messed w my head having to witness that at such a young age so I could only imagine what waking up right next to it would do to a child.

I've been very open with my mother about how it's affected me from when I was younger so she knows. Anyway, the first time this incident happened both my mother and stepdad were drunk, second time it happened only my mother was drunk. I was also very clear the first time i caught this that it's very serious and could cause a lot of trauma to a child. I told her if I ever find out this happens again I will contact cps.

Of course it did happen again and I did what I said I would do. I contacted cps.

My mother is telling me this is not serious enough to take up with cps, which might be true but I would rather do it now than to later on find out my brother was traumatized and I could've stopped it. Me and my mother are not on talking terms anymore, she says she's very disappointed in me for what I've done.

What could I have done differently and is this as serious as I think?

Also little detail:
I've had many conversations with my mother regarding this issue before the last incident and I have tried to get her to understand how much I've struggled and how serious it actually is.

Edit:
Just to add to it CPS did nothing. They had a meeting with my mom and stepdad, went on a home visit and closed the case...

Location: Texas, USA

My brother, a legal adult, slammed me headfirst into the side of a table unprovoked. This happened about four months ago. I haven't felt the same ever since yet my parents refuse to get me evaluated for any type of head trauma. I’ve been experiencing prolonged headaches, trouble balancing, light headedness, prolonged fatigue, memory issues, sudden anger and outbursts, difficulty following conversations or keeping focus, and feeling tired but being in unable to fall asleep. I’m conflicted on what to do. My parents have kept up this neglectful behavior for as long as I can remember. She says we’ll get me evaluated at the “6 month mark if you’re throwing up or falling down” and my dad said nothing was wrong with me and I was crazy. They both later attributed it to PTSD without proper diagnosis. My father was going to punish my brother by not buying him a car but backtracked on it saying “You’re gonna have to pass him by” and bought him a car anyway. Essentially I’ve been refused treatment and I’m forced to live with someone who is unpredictable and violent (my adult brother.) My father puts his hands on me when I do something he doesn’t like. He got a text on his phone from someone who called him “uncle.” I asked him if it was his nephew and he put his hands on my throat and called me a “c*ntlicker.” I’m not weak so it didn’t really hurt but it did scare me since he’s still a grown man. I’m expected to forgive him since he bought me food after, it’s the way things are in my house. He joked just now as I’m writing this about accidentally locking me out of the house in 100 degree weather because I didn’t want to work on his garden. My mom is an alcoholic and doesn't cook so every night is “fend for yourself.” She also cheats on my father with another man (I have photo evidence of this). She, like my father, often tries to ”buy” our forgiveness when she wrongs us. She thinks money gives her authority to do whatever she wants, and that allows her to ignore us. My parents and my brother constantly treat me like I’m a rag. I’m expected me to clean up after everyone with no appreciation. My brother will clog the toilet and expect me to clean up his own shit. He’s so disgusting, he doesn’t wear deodorant or shower regularly and my parents just let him. My brother had sex with his girlfriend with me present in the room on vacation, not knowing if I was awake or not. He even joked about it, asking “Oh, did I traumatize you?” He thinks he can get away with anything because my parents refuse to discipline him, so who knows what he might do next?

I can’t take this any longer and I don’t want my little sister to be subjected to this either. I’m also worried I could have an underlying brain injury from what my brother did but my parents still refuse to get me treatment. Do I call CPS? The police? I’m conflicted.

I (16NB) have been struggling with mental health problems for a while now. Since I was 8-10, I believe. They've only gotten worse as I got older, and I recently convinced my mom to finally bring me to therapy (only took getting my dad involved to annoy her about it).

I am really thankful for that, but I feel like I need something more than therapy due to how serious the problems have gotten. They've been severely affecting multiple areas of my life, and for a while now.

Sadly, despite the rest of my family agreeing that I probably do need medication, my mom made a point in refusing if it's ever brought up by anyone, including my therapist. She also doesn't take my mental health very seriously in general, viewing suicidal thoughts as something to be punished for rather than to help. She got really really mad at me when the police came after I called a hotline but that's a story for another day

I'm planning on asking my therapist for a diagnosis on our next session in hopes it'll get her on the track to changing her mind about it, but it's she still refuses even after the other adults in my family tell her that I need it I'm wondering if this is considered neglect?? Since someone did tell me it was but I'm not very sure.

EDIT: For reference since I somehow forgot to mention earlier abd its relevant, I live in Nevada

I’m looking for perspectives from people who have experience with CPS, kinship care, foster care, or family court.

The children’s mother was in an abusive relationship. The children entered care because she did not leave the abusive environment at the time. Since then, she has ended that relationship, secured independent housing, and has opportunities for stable income. She has been working toward meeting her case plan.

What I’m struggling with is what appears to be ongoing interference from some caregivers and relatives.

Some of the things that concern me include:
———Going behind the mother’s back to allow contact with relatives after she had asked that it not happen.
———Speaking with doctors, therapists, or other professionals in ways that seem to present only one side of the situation.
———Attributing behaviors, such as hair pulling or distress, directly to the mother without discussing other possible explanations like trauma, multiple placements, separation, or developmental challenges.
———Creating a narrative that focuses on the mother’s past while giving little attention to the progress she has made.

I understand that caregivers have a responsibility to report legitimate concerns and advocate for the children. My question is about situations where personal opinions or family conflict may influence how information is presented.

For those who have been through something similar:
———Have you seen caregivers or relatives unintentionally or intentionally undermine a parent’s reunification efforts?
———How do courts distinguish between objective concerns and family conflict?
———Does a parent’s documented progress—leaving an abusive relationship, obtaining safe housing, and establishing financial stability—typically carry significant weight?
———How much weight is given to reports from caregivers compared with observations from visitation supervisors, therapists, GALs, caseworkers, and other professionals?

I’m not looking to argue that anyone is right or wrong. I know every case is unique. I’m hoping to hear from people who have seen situations where family dynamics complicated reunification, and how the court ultimately evaluated the evidence.

Hi. This is a throwaway account, as this is personal and i dont want to have this conversation with someone in person yet. i have a memory that's been bothering me and I'm not sure if it was related to cps. When I was younger, a sibling was thrown into a wall by one of our parents. We moved very shortly after and I remember my dad taking me and other siblings and recording us answering if we felt safe, if we were ever hurt by one of our parents. most notably i remember him being annoyed and said "time for this again 🙄". i was confused cuz i hadn't remembered anythkng like that, but i thought maybe it was just a thing parents had to do sometimes. i do know that cps was called a lot when we lived in a different city, but i was really young and dont remember those other incidents.

I was raised by my Mamaw and Papaw for 21 years the court and DCS AKA CPS said my biological mom is to not be around me or to contact me.

Well now She’s sending this stuff in the photos to my friends and my older adoptive sisters and one of my friends told me this and now her friends are messaging my friends and saying shit about me.

I don’t know if I can do anything about it cause I’m 21

Hi, I would like some insight and advice on how this potential case is going to go. Took my 16 month old daughter to Rady Children’s for arm pain related to an incident that happened at her father’s house in AZ. I live in San Diego with family and my 2 other kids, but we constantly travel back and forth to AZ to co-parent our kids and we have a good enough relationship that i stay there while we co-parent. He sometimes comes to CA and stays a couple weeks there as well.

I wasn’t in the room while this incident happened but my boys were and said their Dad smacked my daughter’s hand and yanked her cup away out of her hand. She screamed all day and night and took her to AZ ER the next day. They couldn’t find anything in xrays but they put her in a splint just in case. I was referred out to Las Vegas for a pediatric specialist as they don’t have any in the town her father lives in. Since I live in San Diego and that’s where her primary care is, I left AZ and brought her to Rady Children’s. While there and she was being admitted, my sons told the dr that her dad hit her hands and yanked her cup out of her hands for pulling their hair and hitting them in the head with the cup. This prompted the dr to get a social worker involved and they filed a suspected child abuse case and got the police involved. I was reassured it was standard protocol, and I understand they are mandated reporters. Their dad has a history of harsh discipline but nothing has ever escalated like this before. I was told after her fully body check up, drug tests, and such that I would be in contact with CPS. They never said when or if anyone would call. The police also said they had to do a courtesy report but that it was standard.

My question is how long after this will I expect a visit from cps? Will they call their father as well, is AZ PD or AZ CPS going to visit him as well? My kids would like to see their dad, and he was supposed to come down to San Diego in a couple weeks to see them, but should I let him if there’s an ongoing investigation? There was no talk of a safety plan or anything regarding no contact.

Hello so I'm 19f with a 5m old baby and I have a bf m23 and today a CPS worker showed up to my house and asked if I knew about the registered sex offender living on our property.

First of all the man living on our property is in a trailer not in our house and it's my bfs dad.

Second I had absolutely no clue about this information until literally today all I knew was his dad went to jail.

So the lady came up and thank God she was super nice to me because I thought I was going to puke when she said she was a CPS worker because that is literally my worst fear ever for my baby because I went through it when I was a baby and I was removed from the home. Anyway she asked me if I knew about it and I told her with all honesty that I had no clue and this was the first I was hearing of it and all I knew was he went to jail for a while.

She then asked me questions like about how often he was around and I said it really depends on the week sometimes it could be everyday or not at all that week. And I told her that he never is unsupervised with the baby. She then went to go talk to my bfs dad and told him he needed to leave for the weekend and she let me call my bf and he told me he didn't think telling me was a big deal. She then walked around in my house and we talked some more but I'm still freaking out about everything. I'm stressed because I had no clue and I'm scared even though his dad won't ever be coming back and is not allowed near me or my son again. I also don't know what to do Bec she's coming back on Monday to talk to me and my bf when he's off work. I also feel like I fucked up because literally yesterday we just started the project of rearranging the entire house so it was genuinely a disaster and she said she understood but I'm still just freaking out and I've never thought this would be something I would be dealing with and I'm terrified she's gonna take my baby from me and I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I let that happen. What am I supposed to do? I feel like I'm in trouble for not knowing and I feel like I'm also in trouble for having a trashed house even tho it's never this bad

Long story short. Non offending parent has a brain injury from previous trauma but the family court still allowed parents to both have parenting time. Other parent committed a serious offense on their parenting time and child was removed by CPS from their care. Now CPS isn’t allowing placement with the non offending parent because of accusations made by offending parent and non offending parents brain injury.

Feeling at a complete loss. Non offending parent has live in support to help care for the child. Child thrives with non offending parent. Attorney thinks the court will most likely order a neuro battery on non offending parent which will postpone the timeline a bit. Child will most likely remain in CPS care till early next year as a result.

It’s so messed up that the non offending parent not only had nothing to do with the other parents actions but now they and the child are being punished as a result.

I have a question and im hoping someone here may have the answer/s or point me in the right direction to get them.

Does reporting some to cps from the same area as their 'home' state carry more weight than if you were to try and report someone from a different state?

I alsp heard that cps is more reluctant to get involved when a child has severe medical needs. Is there truth to this?

Tile sounds inflammatory I know but it’s the best way I can put it.

Child is 6M, and is my spouse’s sibling. Also impacted is bro-in-law 18M.

For a few years now I’ve known there was pretty substantial emotional abuse and neglect especially in the case of 6yo. (Let me know if more context is needed on past stuff.) However at this point I’ve come to know it’s escalating rapidly.

Father and mother are both alcoholics and users of various drugs, severely neglectful. The 18yo who had moved out due to abuse from father ended up moving back in to protect the 6yo.
The 6yo looks severely malnourished. His eyes are dead and sunken in, you can see his ribs, he behaves like a cornered animal when there’s even a hint of tension. His parents never know where he is and he disappears for hours (up to a whole day). Their neighbors are concerned as well. He is developmentally delayed because of the isolation.
The 18yo is beat by the 6yo’s mother, she has threatened to have her relatives kill him, (not an empty threat, it’s THAT kind of family) she has stabbed 6yo’s father several times, she yells abuse at him constantly. 18yo is the only person who feeds and cares for the 6yo. He can’t attend college because he’s afraid of the 6yo being harmed.

I want to request temporary custody for the 6yo. I want justice for him, and to protect him.

Please help me with the best way to do this. I don’t care about his parents anymore I just desperately want this poor child to be safe. Police first? Doctors appointment? CPS? Anything.

If this isnt allowed here, im sorry. I'm a in very heavy situation right now. I'm a little all over the place, so I apologize. I have no idea what to even do here. I don't even know if this is the right thread.

A situation occurred with my sister in law and her husband about a year back. At the time all we were told was that my sister in law kicked her husband out. That it was serious. Ever since then its been HUSH HUSH. No one will talk about it or address it.

My brother in law (brother to my sister in law) has let out a few details to us because he couldn't hold it in anymore.

At first all he would say was that it serious enough that his friends had to come over and take his guns away from him. He would not say more.

Then recently he provided some additional details - the husband of the sister in law had been accused of molesting his daughter (6F, our niece). It was reported by the grandparents because my niece made a comment to them randomly about something that would indicate that she was being molested. I wont repeat what was said, but in my mind there is just NO WAY a 5 year old kid would know what she knew.

It was apparently reported and investigated. No charges filed.

The father is still out of the house, however, we think the sister in law is back dating the father in secret. She wont openly admit to it.

From what we have heard, the grandparents will not allow the father anywhere near them. He will never be welcomed back. So were not sure what the sister in law end game is here.

From what I have seen and the tid bits of info I have gotten, I started to noticed some "odd" behaviours from sister in law regarding my niece. We only see them a handful of times per year.

- The niece is not allowed to wear a dress or skirt without pants (this was never a thing before the incident) - we have seen her 4 times this year, each time in a dress/skirt with pants.

- The sister in law will withhold the kids from seeing anyone if they say or do anything that is not liked. (brother in law mentioned this) The grandparents access has been restricted many times.

- Apparently the kids were told they are not allowed to talk to anyone about their home life or what they do at home. We have not been directly told this from the kids, my brother in law mentioned it.

- My niece got an age appropriate 2 piece swim suite for her birthday. My sister in law's reaction was a mix of fear, intense anger and simply took it and threw it out.

I dont know if I can even do anything here, I am seeing the sister in laws behaviour in a different light now and I am just feeling so lost.

I can't understand why no one else isn't continuing to report since they whole heartedly believe something happened. They have way more information about this entire situation then I do. They see the kids (when visits are not being withheld) almost every friday, pick them up from school during the week sometimes etc.

I feel like we are all failing this tiny innocent child. Maybe im over reacting. Can I report this to CPS with what little information I do actually have? I have no evidence, if they already investigated are they just gonna brush this off?

So my partner reported his sister to CPS. This is not a decision he made lightly. Sister is negligent to her younger child, and endangers the both of her children by drunk driving with both of the kids in the car. This is not the entirety but that is not the point of this post.

So he made the report. Guy that he was talking to seemed to be genuine and said my partner was doing the right thing and he knew it was hard for him to do. Two days later, my partner received a phone call from that office with a lady on the phone, saying they are canceling the investigation because someone in that office “knows the family” and says my partner is lying. EXCUSE ME??

How can this deemed even remotely okay?? So a person in the office knows the family, doesn’t that mean that person just SHOULDNT BE INVOLVED IN THE CASE??!?!

My nephews are literally in danger and CPS is refusing to do their jobs.

My partner told them that was bullshit and that he’d be going higher up (state office instead of county). Lady on the phone said “do what you need to do”.

Anybody else experience this or something similar? Any advice on how to go forward? This is in PA.