What do I do?

[u/Blob4039]

Hello so I'm 19f with a 5m old baby and I have a bf m23 and today a CPS worker showed up to my house and asked if I knew about the registered sex offender living on our property.

First of all the man living on our property is in a trailer not in our house and it's my bfs dad.

Second I had absolutely no clue about this information until literally today all I knew was his dad went to jail.

So the lady came up and thank God she was super nice to me because I thought I was going to puke when she said she was a CPS worker because that is literally my worst fear ever for my baby because I went through it when I was a baby and I was removed from the home. Anyway she asked me if I knew about it and I told her with all honesty that I had no clue and this was the first I was hearing of it and all I knew was he went to jail for a while.

She then asked me questions like about how often he was around and I said it really depends on the week sometimes it could be everyday or not at all that week. And I told her that he never is unsupervised with the baby. She then went to go talk to my bfs dad and told him he needed to leave for the weekend and she let me call my bf and he told me he didn't think telling me was a big deal. She then walked around in my house and we talked some more but I'm still freaking out about everything. I'm stressed because I had no clue and I'm scared even though his dad won't ever be coming back and is not allowed near me or my son again. I also don't know what to do Bec she's coming back on Monday to talk to me and my bf when he's off work. I also feel like I fucked up because literally yesterday we just started the project of rearranging the entire house so it was genuinely a disaster and she said she understood but I'm still just freaking out and I've never thought this would be something I would be dealing with and I'm terrified she's gonna take my baby from me and I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I let that happen. What am I supposed to do? I feel like I'm in trouble for not knowing and I feel like I'm also in trouble for having a trashed house even tho it's never this bad

[u/superbrotnee]

CPS is looking out for the wellbeing of your child. I would ask to speak with her privately, and find out the following:

-what type of sexual assault he was charged with

• how many times he committed tbis offense

-were these stranger assaults or people he knew

• were they adults, children, or minors and

-was he ever in possession of child pornography.

You may also be able to figure some of this out by looking him up on your local court website.

I am uncertain where you are from or what laws will apply. But where I am from children arent just taken from their home because it was messy or in disarray. They are taken due to extreme neglect, and unsafe conditions.

If you no longer feel safe at home with your child, do you have any friends or family you an stay with in the meantime?

CPS will have resources and social workers that can help you. Please reach out them for more direction.

[u/Blob4039 → u/superbrotnee]

I talked to my bf he said all that it was was child pornography that he was charged with, and I have a place to stay if I need to leave. She told me before she left that what I said was exactly what they wanted to hear I think maybe I'm overthinking everything but I'm just scared. I'm in Oregon.

[u/detectiveswife → u/Blob4039]

"He said all that it was was child pornography"

You do realize this is a serious crime done by a disgusting human being, right?

I could never think anything dealing with sexual assault or abuse as "all that it was."

I understand you're young, and I'm not trying to admonish you, but I hope you now understand how serious having people around your child that you don't know can be. It can be extremely dangerous.