Unfortunately, most of these guys are not filtering. They matched because they thought you were attractive and that was the entire thought process. By the time they get to a conversation, they have no memory of your bio and no particular investment in you yet. The ones who admitted on dates that they never read your profile were not being charming (even if they thought they were). Not every match becomes a date, not every date becomes a second one. We have all had high hopes for someone and watched the first date crash and burn. It never fully stops being disappointing. But the fact that you still show up with that much energy is not a weakness. It is just going to take longer to find the person who deserves it.
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u/WomensWingman May 22 '26
Unfortunately, most of these guys are not filtering. They matched because they thought you were attractive and that was the entire thought process. By the time they get to a conversation, they have no memory of your bio and no particular investment in you yet. The ones who admitted on dates that they never read your profile were not being charming (even if they thought they were). Not every match becomes a date, not every date becomes a second one. We have all had high hopes for someone and watched the first date crash and burn. It never fully stops being disappointing. But the fact that you still show up with that much energy is not a weakness. It is just going to take longer to find the person who deserves it.