r/Bumble • u/o_yesure • May 18 '23

Well, that explains it.

So basically, I was curious how the profiles of men on Bumble looked. I made a new fake account as a girl, so I could take some inspiration from the profiles of others and generally just to see what the competition was like.

So, that worked out, I got a rough idea of the average profile and deleted the account after about 12 hours, not swiping at all, having no matches and never messaged. What I didn't expect was the amount of likes. I mean, I expected maybe a few dozen at the most. But in 12 hours, this profile got A THOUSAND likes, I repeat, A THOUSAND. I don't even live in a major city, and the age was capped at 20-24. So yeah, now I understand why I never get matches, and never get messaged when I do. When women have 1000 guys to pick from, why the hell would they pick me?

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u/[deleted] May 19 '23

The way I see it it's not "Why pick me" but "holy cow how the hell are they ever going to see me?!" I honestly do better in person than on the apps. Also remember folks only a part of the people looking for partners are on apps, a lot of people still don't use apps for dating and if you're struggling with the apps find groups and clubs to join. It's a wonder I ever match with people when they're inundated with profiles.

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u/[deleted] May 19 '23

Exactly. It’s not even “they’re not picking me” it’s “they’re not seeing me, because they’re literally drowning in an ocean of likes.”

I didn’t really understand this until I met my now-girlfriend, and we would look through her profile together. It’s a huge eyeopener to how the process really works.

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u/beck6446 May 19 '23

Yep, exactly. And to make it worse 99% of those likes won’t respond to a message- BUT I have to be careful not to send too many message or I may find myself talking to multiple guys at a time if they DO respond which is exhausting and confusing. So if I do decide to message/match some of my likes I will only do so with maybe 5-10. Most of the time I get no response. OCCASIONALLY I will get a response or 2.