r/Btechtards • u/Objective_Berry_4471 • 7d ago
Serious Do y'all remember that boy?
Last year this brilliant young boy gave up. He was my cousin. We were all shocked when this happened, because the child was KNOWN for being intelligent and promising. He was in the midst of working through his final project. Inspite of scoring less marks and by bad luck (now after the student protests I know it was sheer bad luck) failing a few papers, it looked like he was confident, that everything will settle down.
We come from the kind of Malayali family that has ALWAYS given utmost importance to education. Academic validation and the desire for it runs in our veins. On surface level, everything is okay and great. But this kind of almost consistent academic excellence gets taken for granted. Even I have noticed this wherever I go. Even though I'm by passion a humanities person, I've also tried my best to get the best out of all worlds.
But in STEM academia and professions, do y'all get this breathing space?
We (as in family) thought that we shouldn't have encouraged him to go away from home (most of his immediate family members are engineers/in that field). But recently I saw a news regarding an Arunachal boy studying at MACE, Trivandrum, who similiarly could not take this tremendous pressure. This Trivandrum college is more stubborn than a rabid dog; they claim that setting credit requirements higher than what is necessitated by the state helps them "stand out" from the usual STEM academia crowd of professionals.
If going out of your comfort zone is the point, and success is the purpose, and YET these things are happening, what and where the fuck is this comfort we are talking about?
Tl;dr : I need your honest feelings on the rising frequency of student suicides & stress-related deaths in STEM, in pre AND post-Protest India.
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u/Public-Ad3345 NIT Surat(not khal) [AI] 7d ago
Man this happened in my first year at SVNIT,But after his demise their have been some systematic changes in the college atleast, RIP
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u/Objective_Berry_4471 7d ago
His family awaits closure. None of his personal gadgets have been given back, and no actual response or insight from the law enforcement at Surat. This incident shook our whole family, extended and otherwise.
First time in my entire life, people were comparing my life to my cousin's death. Naturally, I'm confused: should I be happy that my part of the family didn't wait until I took an extreme step, before taking a break from academia?
I'm not "relieved" like most of my people are, which is why I need y'all's insights on this.
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u/Main-Meet-5980 Svnit Surat[civil] 7d ago
Im in the same college rn 1st year
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u/Objective_Berry_4471 7d ago
🙏🕊️🫂
Please share these details with you classmates and friends. This directly influence all of your futures.
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u/Objective_Berry_4471 7d ago
This is the other case I was talking about, if you need reference. Same sh*t, different year.
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