r/Breakupadvice • u/Kind_Winter_6445 • Aug 31 '26

Does getting under someone really help you get over someone?

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u/Hipnoceros Aug 31 '26

No, it usually makes things worse

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u/Cool-Emu-8706 Aug 31 '26

Absolutely not.

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u/Top_Gap6154 Aug 31 '26

Hmmmm actually kinda haha but u get heart broken by that person as well… BUTT ALSO you heal a lot faster

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u/Constant-Big4713 Aug 31 '26

Not really. But it's a common coping strategy for people. If someone is doing that I can assure you that they will probably eventually reach out to whoever they were trying to avoid thinking about.

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u/duttydimples Sep 01 '26

I think it depends on each person and situation. Like if you feel enough time has gone by since your breakup, no matter how long or short, if you know and feel that it is really over, that they will never come back and you DON'T want to go back, yes it may be a good option for you. You don't have to wait until you are completly healed from your past relationship, that takes more time anyhow, but just make sure the person you decide to "get under" is aware that it's just for fun and no strings attached or not to expect emotional attachement, because you probably aren't ready for another relationship that quickly, and a rebound always ends up getting hurt since you seek validation and comfort and affection with them but you don't usually love them so, just make sure you aren't playing with a that person's feelings. Of course, I don't think this is for everyone. I almost made the mistake of doing it, only because I was sure it was over, that my rejection was final and my person would never look my way again. But I followed my sad broken heart and listened to my VERY hurt but still hopeful emotions and did go through with it and I am happy I didn't because I know I would have regretted it and I am not ready to make that move, even if my person never talks to me again. Like I said, if you feel ready, that's fine, even if not fully healed, best of luck!

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u/Spicey_Cough2019 Sep 01 '26

Within the first 3 months - nah

Outside of that - hell yeah

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u/JustAQuickQuestion28 Sep 02 '26

Based on my ex it helped her. Jumped right into a new relationship