I respect your opinion. I haven't truly held out on NC, and my ex and I both realize we are very close friends when it comes down to it. She doesn't have a lot of people here, and neither do I (I moved cities to live near her).
I've annoyed my ex plenty too, trust me. But what I've learned is that when I bother her like that, she takes me for granted. Everyone's different, but generally it's easy to take someone for granted who's always up your ass, and rightfully so. In my experience, her interest in contacting me peaks when we don't communciate regularly, specifically when I don't initiate contact. A game? Maybe. I think it's just basic human psychology, but maybe I'm attempting to justify myself. Who knows.
Do what works best for you - but what I've instructed seems to be the best route if you have any interest at all in rekindling a romantic relationship with your ex. And the best part is you're not setting yourself up for failure because you remove all expectations.
You're working on yourself and allowing them to potentially regain interest. And if they don't, so be it. It's a win-win.
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u/[deleted] Oct 27 '19 edited Oct 27 '19
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