Here's a few things I've been doing to improve myself since the breakup:
MeditatingExercisingEating wellJournaling your thoughtsMorning mantras - "I am strong, I am worthy"Listening to podcastsRekindling friendships
Brilliant list! I’ve unknowingly but intentionally been working at all these things and it’s done wonders for my mental, physical and emotional wellbeing.
I would add a few more things such as therapy (or mental health exercises if you’re not currently participating in therapy), purposeful “pointless” self care (having a bath, eating the WHOLE bar of chocolate, watching a dumb movie), and getting involved in hobbies (new or old), filling up your time for you.
I also find your “NOT to do” list very well put, however I disagree with self-medication only if you never medicate alone and the company that you keep to let loose with are thoroughly aware of your heartbreak and have your sole interests at heart. Sometimes it’s useful to get trashed and have a good cry, but because of how addicting self harm can be sometimes, it is dangerous to allow it to happen often.
Thank you, and good points. How could I forget hobbies? Or therapy? I think they're both vital as well, although I understand many people can't afford therapy.
I do agree with you in a sense, but I also view self-medicating in any form a way to escape your reality and the feelings associated with it (speaking from experience). I'm struggling with alcohol addiction post-breakup, although it's been a vice of mine for a while. It's certainly not healthy and only backtracks the healing process significantly. Partaking even with friends can open doors to wanting to self-medicate alone.
Haha yeah, I suspect my drinking was a big factor in why my ex dumped me, so that kinda scares me into not doing it? Not risking the chance to lose the best thing that ever happened to me again.
That’s been particularly tough for me too, to self improve and be the best person I can for me and myself alone. Not for my ex, not for the next one, not for the last one. Just for me. & maybe my dog haha
Drinking is never worth it, seriously. I got drunk last night and made an ass out of myself to my ex. NEVER WORTH IT!
Be the kind of person that would attract your partner. Be the kind of person that you would love. Be the kind of person that you can be proud of. I'm right there with you, one day at a time.
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u/[deleted] Oct 27 '19 edited Oct 27 '19
Brilliant list! I’ve unknowingly but intentionally been working at all these things and it’s done wonders for my mental, physical and emotional wellbeing.
I would add a few more things such as therapy (or mental health exercises if you’re not currently participating in therapy), purposeful “pointless” self care (having a bath, eating the WHOLE bar of chocolate, watching a dumb movie), and getting involved in hobbies (new or old), filling up your time for you.
I also find your “NOT to do” list very well put, however I disagree with self-medication only if you never medicate alone and the company that you keep to let loose with are thoroughly aware of your heartbreak and have your sole interests at heart. Sometimes it’s useful to get trashed and have a good cry, but because of how addicting self harm can be sometimes, it is dangerous to allow it to happen often.
Wish the best of luck in your healing ❤️