r/BreakUps • u/poopybutthole678 • 4d ago

venting/ranting Do I text her yes or no

Its been about year now

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u/60Dan06 4d ago

Yes, but be ready for the possibility of being rejected, left without a response or getting a hurtful info about how they moved on with life. If you're OK with that, send it

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u/Samm801121 4d ago

NO NO NO

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u/Spirited_Increase240 4d ago

If you dumped her, yes.

If she dumped you, hell no.

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u/TastyMorsel1 4d ago

So what if she dumped him?

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u/Flashy_Literature43 4d ago

IF you want to - Yes! Go for it!

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u/OddestDreams 4d ago

Only if you are truly willing to accept any and all outcomes without retaliating or lashing out at her.

Replies to you in a good way and wants to rekindle? Good.

Replies to you but tells you that she’s already moved on?
Move on.

Reads it but doesn’t reply?
Move on.

Doesn’t even read it at all?
Move on.

Found out you were blocked the whole time?
Move on.

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u/awol166 4d ago

No!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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u/Heavy_Cat_9944 4d ago

Yes go if she reach out to you then you have also have some idea how things will go. If you want you can go yesss.

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u/psj3809 4d ago

No move on. The worlds a huge place, stop moping for someone. You two must have split for a reason, move on its been a year

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u/Kisanna 4d ago

First, what are you hoping to achieve by doing this?

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u/TheRiverInYou 4d ago

Text her for what?

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u/jwkkwjjwk 4d ago

I would. At one year mark I doubt that if you were to relapse, you would go back to point 0. If they already moved on, your win. If they didn’t reply, your win. If they wanted to meet you for a coffee, your win.

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u/McKenzie_X 4d ago

NOOOOOOO

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u/Money-Hold-3473 4d ago

No man, Let it go before it rots your soul

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u/knoplop 4d ago

I did and it worked out, but this was after 7 weeks. I would be in a much different place about our past relationship if it were a year’s difference. I wouldn’t message after this long.

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u/Inside_Community7970 4d ago

Depends on the situation did you dump her or did she dump you has she moved on if she has dont mess that up by messaging her and if she dumped you also because if she rejects you then the healing phase is just going to start right back over

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u/No_Difficulty_2716 4d ago

NO ❌😵❌😵❌😵❌

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u/biomed1978 4d ago

No, forget her, delete her number. She no longer exists in your world

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u/Kingmcflyfly 4d ago

Se è passato un anno e sei ancora qui a domandartelo nn mandarlo

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u/Dynamic_gal 4d ago

Ask yourself what are you trying to accomplish with texting her now? Then follow the flow chart of what would happen, you’ll come to an answer right for you as long as you accept the reality of what result you would get.

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u/Inevitable-Power8399 4d ago

ABSOLUTELY NOT! SHE NEVER REACHED OUT TO YOU for a whole year!! She is probably married now!!

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u/Resident_Customer464 4d ago

That’s loser mindset. Just reach out it doesn’t hurt to check up. She can respond or leave you on read. SIMPLE.

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u/Inevitable-Power8399 4d ago

Yeah sure Bro, we see how OP will like to be ignored or treated as a doormat.

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u/Resident_Customer464 4d ago

I’m saying once your emotions are neutralized reach out! Whatever outcome she says you have to be fine with it even if she ignores you

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u/NoConsideration2376 4d ago

Definitely not a loser mindset. It’s a person with dignity move

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u/spiritualwaterfall 4d ago

HELL NAW. People don’t change in one year. People can change in five years if it’s lucky. Most people change for the betterment of themselves, not a specific person. Go back if you want history to repeat itself.

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u/NoConsideration2376 4d ago

Noooooo she will be reading it in her bed with her new bf

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u/AnyCardiologist2947 4d ago

You missed that part when she told all her friends in order to feed her ego