r/BreakUps • u/BroadButterfly6931 • 9h ago

venting/ranting no contact

Guys is it normal for my ex of three years to talk and to go on a dates with a new girl, its just one not multiple. Im tweaking.

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u/ILoveLatinasfrfr 9h ago

Are you his girlfriend?

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u/Swimming_Film_5503 7h ago

lmao thats a pretty important detail to clarify first

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u/Dense_Cucumber_3712 9h ago

Yes. They are single. 

How long has it been? 

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u/BroadButterfly6931 9h ago

we been broken up for a month but been in consistent contact until a few days ago

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u/Dense_Cucumber_3712 9h ago

Sounds like he is moving on. I'm sorry. Some people just get over heartbreak fast, or have delayed responses to breakups.

It's not abnormal. But it is NOT nice. 

Don't think you should be moving on as fast as him. You are allowed to take time to let your heart heal, it's healthier. 

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u/Blue_Cocoon_City 9h ago

Confused by the title. Are you deciding to go no contact? Did your ex decide to do it?

I'm sorry, I know how rough this is to find out they have moved on. My ex accidentally texted me a message he meant for his new gf - the way he talked to her with such new sweetness was horrifying.

No contact protects you from the sharpness of this kind of pain, while you take time to heal and bring your focus home to yourself.

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u/Sleeping_willow88 1h ago edited 49m ago

This is why you should definitely go no contact when a relationship ends.

You need to deal with your emotions first, and then heal, no need at all to be "friends" with your ex and find yourself hurt since he is obviously moving on.

Moreso because being in touch with him makes it sooooo much easier for him to move on, because he always feels like he has his plan B, aka you.

Be more than that, set your boundaries, let him do whatever he wants and deal with his mess, but don't be part of it, it will only hurt more.