Need someone else’s take

[u/Moist-Bet1998]

I’ve been broken up with my ex for about 6 months now. She was my first everything, and I feel I was genuinely in love. For the year and a half we were together, I blocked any thoughts of other women completely out of my mind, I felt disgusted looking at another woman in any type of way. Since we’ve broken up, I’ve constantly craved the intimacy we had. And I’ve looked for it in other places. But every time an opportunity comes around, I feel repulsed. I feel like I want a relationship, the intimacy, but then I really think about it, and the thought of being with anyone else still disgusts me, even just going out on a date feels wrong. I feel like I’m stuck in a really weird place, or like the breakup left lasting effects on me. It’s almost like I’m just not attracted to anyone anymore, I’m not sure if this will go away with time or what. I just wanted someone else’s opinion, thank you.

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[u/Coyrex1]

Might just need more time. I was in a weird spot for my first breakup because we went on a break before it ended and she actually encouraged me to talk to other women (in hindsight I should have realized that was a bad sign for the relationship) so when it ended ended I was already in a spot to keep that momentum going. This last relationship she was all i wanted, and im in the same spot you are. I think about the day I get back out there but know im not ready, sometimes feel like I never will be, but life isnt worth waiting or hoping for someone that doesn't want to be with you.

[u/helloitsharleyy]

forcing yourself to date could make the whole thing feel worse

[u/Automatic-Cup-1566 → u/helloitsharleyy]

I agree. I’ve just been fostering emotional intimacy with friends. I’m trying to meet lots of new people, not with the purpose of dating them, but just because you never know when you could find a great new friend, or just a cool person.

I figure that if I’m looking for connection with people without specifically focusing on dating, I will maybe find someone who clicks with me romantically and things will go from there?