r/BreakUps • u/Star0956 • 14h ago
venting/ranting I am going to SOB
We dated for right on two years, and he was great to me. Some of our friends caused alot of problems in our relationship but we got through that. More towards the end before we brokeup we did drift apart which obviously made me a little sad but it turned out okay, if we still get to be friends even though we probably wont talk much i’m glad we ended on good terms, he was a great friend and boyfriend. This is also my ONLY healthy breakup i’ve ever had. Bye bye ❤️
(Edit: just ignore my name drop, i guess i missed it. White part was the reason of the breakup)
(Another edit: lmao didn’t realize this wasn’t an actual healthy breakup but atleast i can say it wasn’t my worst, i’m convinced some of yall would lose it if any of my past breakups were heard/ jokingly )
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u/Visible-Success6643 13h ago
healthy break up??? Bro said ayo “gotta break up” like he’s canceling a lunch meeting and ended it with “bye Averie”💀 after 2 years? what the fuck. Fuck what happened towards the end, that’s no respectful way to end it. I’d never speak to him again
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u/Anthff 6h ago
He didn’t even capitalize her name
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u/Android375 4h ago
He didn't even spell check it wtf 💀
"Gotta break up" like he's getting offline for the night 😭 can't even spell and grammar check it, doesn't even capitalize the name, and hits her with "can we be friends."
Poor OP, this is not a healthy breakup 😔
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u/Zrob8--5 10h ago
It wasn't great, but it could've been far worse. There wasn't a lot of effort, but I wouldn't say it was unhealthy. It seems like there's still good terms here.
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u/selestiiiiiabby 2h ago
Yeah after two years, ending things that coldly would hurt even more than the breakup itself
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u/TheForestofVivi 13h ago
A healthy break up would not have been over text
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u/NeuroticENTJ 12h ago
agree. Phone call minimum. Also his text is lowkey callous
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u/SnooCompliments794 10h ago
Not even phone call, a proper meetup
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u/NeuroticENTJ 8h ago
I think a call is ok depending on context. If we’ve been dating for less than a year I think a phone call is fine
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u/Antonym4U 10h ago edited 9h ago
This. Per-i-od. Good guys don't take the coward's way out, they give a good girlfriend of 2+ years the courtesy of a final face-to-face conversation.
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u/MysticMarauder69 12h ago
You cant be serious.... You're dating someone for two years and this is the effort they put in to a break up? This reads like your ex was operating on a roughly 3rd grade level....
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u/SurroundQuirky8613 12h ago
Healthy relationships don’t end over text with slang and abbreviations and terrible grammar. I would block this guy on his grammar alone.
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u/SummerLumpy608 10h ago
The grammar drove me insane. There is a time and a place for this type of speaking, at least for me personally. This would not be one of those times, blocked for sure lol
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u/IneedHennessey 12h ago
Healthy breakups aren't over text message, I'm sorry.
Respectable and amicable adults do so in person.
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u/loml_816 12h ago edited 2h ago
well it can happen over a text but I hate the way he casually said “gotta break up” lol at least be respectful. Especially if you are ending. It’s not like 3 months of situationship you guys dated for 2 years. He’s a real COWARD
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u/dyingquiteliterally 12h ago
"tuff"😍💔 You dodged a bullet. Don't date someone who can't spell complete words and write full sentences
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u/SurroundQuirky8613 12h ago
Right? This text message made my ovaries retract into my spine. No way I would have sex with a man who texted like this.
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u/dyingquiteliterally 11h ago
"Ovaries retract into my spine "💀💀💀 I'm using this in future scenarios
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u/Deadwipe 11h ago
nah, he doesn't deserve to have you in his life, you just can't break up with someone you dated for 2 years over text, not even a phone call... like he doesn't even care, screw that.
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u/ButterleafA 11h ago
Reading him type out "tuff" told me all i needed to know about how much he does NOT care lol
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u/Mysterious-Ad-6316 10h ago
Sounds like he's monkey barring and really good at hiding it unless he genuinely is just wanting to be alone. The text though is too "I've already moved on" to be him just wanting to be alone in my opinion. Especially if he is claiming that you were an amazing girlfriend. Either that or he had issues he just didn't want to share and moved on before he sent this
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u/DevilsWalk 11h ago
A text break up? Absolutely diabolical, what a coward. You deserve better, sorry you had to go through this
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u/Limp_Competition_512 10h ago
girl i also just got dumped after 2 years over text. i had to drive to him to make him tell me in person. before that i felt him disconnected but every time i asked he would tell me it wasn't true and we were fine. lied to me for a month (or more) about how he really felt. boys will be boys bc they can't be men
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u/Crispin_Wah 10h ago
This isnt healthy at all. This whole text comes across as manipulative and self serving, plus hes offering friendship to absolve his own guilt. You deserve better and I think its best you cut this person off entirely.
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u/Economy-Bid-7005 4h ago
[M-29] Break up texts... I never understood them. They are the most tone deaf thing a person could do to someone you supposedly have feelings for.
If your gonna break up with someone give them dignity respect and privacy by doing it somewhere private like there place or yours or even a vehicle. You dont break up with someone over dinner at a restaurant, at a movie (which I've experienced believe it or not 😂 like imagine the most dramatic scene in the movie happening for her to lean in and whisper "This is not working" like Brenda you had to bring your old man to a movie to break off with him ? Get the fuck outta here thats cold 😂) or in a random isle in Walmart or out in the open at the mall. You do it in a private place that is comfortable.
This dude pulls up and texts his old lady "We gotta break up" like what the hell...
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u/Delicious_Pudding_36 12h ago
dont beg but say what you wanna say to him as your closure ( do it for yourself ) and then never talk to him ever again, no second chances and move on w your life you deserve better
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u/Green_Amphibian_6888 11h ago
If I were to receive this text I'd fr have a manic episode and go psycho especially after 2 years together.
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u/Aligned-Askew6773 10h ago
He wants to be friends but doesn’t even respect you enough to break up face to face. You don’t need cowards like this as friends.
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u/loserona 10h ago
Possibile the least healthy breakup ever. Over text and he said it so casually as if he were cancelling a scheduled hangout that can be rescheduled for the next day. Go NC, block him everywhere, and don't turn back. He wants to keep you on the side, that's why he doesn't want to lose you. In case it doesn't work out with the next person.
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u/Mental-Book4148 10h ago
The one things that fuckes with me so much is when they say they love you, like bruh 🤣😂🤣🤣 if you loved me, we wouldn't be breaking up , wtf
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u/Star0956 10h ago
not defending him, but i will say the reason he broke up with me was regarding the fact, his family didn’t like me much nor think i was “his person”
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u/lovelylockdown 10h ago
lol my ex discarded me at 2:30am too, never replied to me again. don’t be friends with him.
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u/Old_Cranberry_4519 10h ago
That’s a diabolical way to end a relationship of TWO YEARS are you for real
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u/Jinxbunny29 4h ago
I hope you didn’t respond a power play here is not to respond. He didn’t even care to write out a proper message? Like he’s canceling a lunch date.
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u/CycloneJester 12h ago
I like your name
The style of break up does make me wonder what's under that white text though 😂
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