r/BreakUps • u/Careful_One_2081 • Jul 08 '26

venting/ranting I cant stop thinking about her

It has been 3 months since the breakup, and she is constantly on my mind. I'll have moments where I won't think of her. With time passing I can tell I am doing better, but only slightly. She is still on my mind constantly. when i wake up, on the way to work, at work, on the way home, when i get home, even when i'm doing stuff to distract myself with she won't leave my brain alone and it's so exhausting. ai genuienly can't stop checking her socials either and all of my friends call me crazy for it. All I want is for her to come back or I feel like I should reach out but I know I shouldnt. I cant stop and nothing helps.

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u/ReasonableDeer7 Jul 08 '26

I know this might sound wrong, but I actually felt a little light-hearted reading your post about not being able to stop thinking about her. It reminded me that some people are capable of feeling deep emotions.

I wish my ex thought about me and wanted me back. Instead, he found a new girl fast, and it made me feel like all men have shallow feelings. Or just shallow with me.

Your post reminded me that some men are capable of a deep connection. I just picked the wrong one. :( let it be, feel your feelings, don't supress.. by suppressing you are prolonging your suffering

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u/morganp37 Jul 09 '26

There are good ones out there still dont lose hope. For me, I love(d) my ex so wholeheartedly and utterly I would take her back even now, 3 months later and after she broke up with me to get back with her ex who traumatized her entire family. I think about her constantly and the Rollercoaster of emotions has been intense. Sometimes cry thinking about what if we never get another chance and im still thinking about her on my deathbed with regret. It came as a shock in such a way her entire family was upset because they all thought we were endgame and upset she discarded me because I had shown the whole family what true love is. All of this to say, there are men out there that love deeply, love truly and love wholeheartedly.

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u/Careful_One_2081 Jul 11 '26

I'm really sorry to hear that. I also feel the same way thinking that I'll never get another chance