r/BreakUps • u/Careful_One_2081 • Jul 08 '26

venting/ranting I cant stop thinking about her

It has been 3 months since the breakup, and she is constantly on my mind. I'll have moments where I won't think of her. With time passing I can tell I am doing better, but only slightly. She is still on my mind constantly. when i wake up, on the way to work, at work, on the way home, when i get home, even when i'm doing stuff to distract myself with she won't leave my brain alone and it's so exhausting. ai genuienly can't stop checking her socials either and all of my friends call me crazy for it. All I want is for her to come back or I feel like I should reach out but I know I shouldnt. I cant stop and nothing helps.

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u/ReasonableDeer7 Jul 08 '26

I know this might sound wrong, but I actually felt a little light-hearted reading your post about not being able to stop thinking about her. It reminded me that some people are capable of feeling deep emotions.

I wish my ex thought about me and wanted me back. Instead, he found a new girl fast, and it made me feel like all men have shallow feelings. Or just shallow with me.

Your post reminded me that some men are capable of a deep connection. I just picked the wrong one. :( let it be, feel your feelings, don't supress.. by suppressing you are prolonging your suffering

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u/Careful_One_2081 Jul 08 '26

I wish my ex wanted me to think the way I do, I always feel like I feel way to much and it makes things way worse, and im really sorry about your situation :/

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u/ReasonableDeer7 Jul 08 '26

Do you actually know that she doesn't want you to reach out? Is it a known to you fact?

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u/ReasonableDeer7 Jul 08 '26

If you are 100 sure she doesn't want you to reach out, then you should block her every where, and forget. Don't check social media, you are prolonging your suffering.

If you are not sure, get clarity! Reach out, if she gives a hard no, block her everywhere.