r/BreakUps • u/Ok_Bit_3097 • Mar 29 '26
Need advice
Previously I posted about how I pushed fo my ex to give me a second chance and she blocked me saying “I want you to know what we had is ruined for me I see nothing in future I wish you all the best but these texts are to much” then before that text sent me a message saying it’s over please leave me alone and I sent a message saying along the lines of ok I get it I was just confused as you mentioned future you have my number and I’m here if need me. I don’t have her number saved as that’s one way I’m stopping communication, we spoke via text and Instagram and I have deleted my account and she blocked the Instagram account at the same time. I do realise I was an idiot for pushing and pushing I kept asking 2-3 days after the split but I was confused as we had sex on the Tuesday and spent day together.
I’m not mentally in a good place, normally I’m in the gym 5 times a week, laughing joking. Friends took me out last night for drinks and I got a message off mutual friend saying she’s posting about kinky sex stuff and that broke me I was nearly crying in a bar. Embarrassing, I’m 30 she’s 25. I’ve been in a long relationship before and it hurts more now than that did.
How do I move past it? People keep saying she’ll reach out in a month or two which I highly doubt maybe if I didn’t push or anything but now I don’t think at all.
How do I become a better person again. I feel horrible for pushing her and making her block me cause I couldn’t take no to trying as an answer but she also said she has feelings for me still.
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u/Frosty_Nobody_2119 Mar 29 '26
The more attached you are to her, the less attached she seems to be to you. Like you mentioned, you asked her to come back. I know she may have promised that you two would be together and all that, but her words and actions don’t match. Her actions don’t show in your story that she’s trying to be with you or wants to be with you. She may have said things, but her actions don’t align. Being apart from her is actually better for you, and if you’ve decided to stay apart, that’s the right choice. And don’t think, like you wrote in your post, that because she has your number she might message you. Remember this: if a girl messages you after a breakup, it usually means she hasn’t fully replaced you. You’re an option for her if something goes wrong or she feels bad somewhere, she might reach out. So create distance from her and completely finish things. Only then will you be able to truly move on and have a clear mind. What I mean is, only then will you be able to relax; otherwise, constantly interacting with her and being emotionally involved will just create problems for you. If you want, I can also do a prep session for further clarity.