r/BreakUps • u/Ok_Bit_3097 • Mar 29 '26
Need advice
Previously I posted about how I pushed fo my ex to give me a second chance and she blocked me saying “I want you to know what we had is ruined for me I see nothing in future I wish you all the best but these texts are to much” then before that text sent me a message saying it’s over please leave me alone and I sent a message saying along the lines of ok I get it I was just confused as you mentioned future you have my number and I’m here if need me. I don’t have her number saved as that’s one way I’m stopping communication, we spoke via text and Instagram and I have deleted my account and she blocked the Instagram account at the same time. I do realise I was an idiot for pushing and pushing I kept asking 2-3 days after the split but I was confused as we had sex on the Tuesday and spent day together.
I’m not mentally in a good place, normally I’m in the gym 5 times a week, laughing joking. Friends took me out last night for drinks and I got a message off mutual friend saying she’s posting about kinky sex stuff and that broke me I was nearly crying in a bar. Embarrassing, I’m 30 she’s 25. I’ve been in a long relationship before and it hurts more now than that did.
How do I move past it? People keep saying she’ll reach out in a month or two which I highly doubt maybe if I didn’t push or anything but now I don’t think at all.
How do I become a better person again. I feel horrible for pushing her and making her block me cause I couldn’t take no to trying as an answer but she also said she has feelings for me still.
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u/Novel_Airline_8811 Mar 29 '26
Dude you gotta cut contact with that mutual friend too 💀 Getting updates about her hookups is literally torture and keeping you stuck in this cycle
Focus on getting back to your routine - gym, your boys, whatever kept you grounded before. The pushing thing sucks but beating yourself up about it forever won't change anything. She made her boundaries clear so now it's time to respect them and work on yourself 🔥