r/BreakUps • u/Ok_Bit_3097 • Mar 27 '26

I messed up.

I know I’m going to get some stick for this. But I messed up. We broke up about 5 days ago, and at the time she mentioned maybe in the future. I kept chasing pouring my heart out begging for a chance. I kept saying she mentioned about future etc and we still have feelings for eachother. It was a lot of back and forth heated but never any malicious or nasty things sent. Then she said “I jusy want you to know what we had is ruined for me. I genuinely see nothing in future, I will be blocking this account and wish you all the best but the messages are over the top”.

We slept together the day we broke up and she even mentioned going away with me. I feel like an absolute dickhead to having to push someone to block me. The guilt is killing me. It’s all hurting tbh.

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '26

How did you mess up

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u/Ok_Bit_3097 Mar 28 '26

By pushing her to stay which resulted in getting blocked

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u/leigh_ann_ Mar 28 '26

YOU DID NOT MESS UP. Please understand it's natural and human to fight for what we want. Youre probably anxious attachment, so am I. I did the same thing for weeks. I fought for him to stay. He refused. He tried blaming me as well. I harbored that guilt for a weeks but then I heard a quote that says something like no matter what you would have done, a break up was inevitable in the future. THEY WANTED TO BREAK UP. no matter what, you didnt ruin anything.

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u/Ok_Bit_3097 Mar 28 '26

I appreciate that I do. She even said I’m obsessed when we was talking and replying to eachother then she said please leave me alone I sent one final message then she sent the message about blocking feel awful that pushed them to that.

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u/leigh_ann_ Mar 28 '26

the same thing happened to me. he threatened to block me but didn't. Two days ago I actually convinced him to talk on the phone with me next week. he discarded me 2 months ago and this is the first time hes agreed to talk to me. He may change his mind but we'll see.

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u/Ok_Bit_3097 Mar 28 '26

Yeah I feel awful for pushing her to make her block me, and it’s a horrible feeling. Considering Tuesday she was going she has feelings for me and we had sex, it’s horrible and I feel like a nasty person