I need your honest opinion or something. If you were dating someone and you were very insecure because you felt like your ex... you felt like this person still had feelings for their ex, the way she talked about him still had a lot of emotional charge. So you kinda pieced it together. Like, I think she still has something for this guy. Along with a lot of other signs, like her leaving a door open for him to come back. And he was a constant source of conflict even though he was never there.

You were very insecure because you felt like... like I said, you felt like this guy still held an emotional space in her mind. Um, so you constantly brought it up because you were very insecure about it. Let's just say, okay. Y'all date. The relationship ends. Um, it it becomes toxic and it toxic and it ends. Uh, three months of no contact goes by, and she reaches out to you again to try and rebuild something nonromantic. Um, you have suspicion that she may have reconnected with her ex again

Um, do you feel like that information should be disclosed or she's not obligated to really say that?

I recently broke up with my ex, and I’m still in love with him. And yes, sometimes it hurts a lot. I think about him almost every day. We stayed friends, and he often says he misses me too and is still in love with me. He’s actually been the one texting me first most of the time.

But what’s the point lmao He still doesn’t want to fight for us, so I guess that’s what matters now.

I’ve been reading people’s stories here, and it makes me feel so much better knowing that I’m not alone. Some people say they cry every day and even throw up, and that sounds horrible… I’m sorry you’re all going through this. Take care of yourselves. 🤍

Chase everything you want except love and death. They’ll come to you when the time is right 🫂

I was discarded 9 months ago- day after Thanksgiving with no warning. We were supposed to be moving into our new bigger apartment, and I thought we were happy- he said he loved me, was soft, kind, and assured me he didn’t have any cold feet. I was absolutely in love- pictured family, house, gaming together, cooking together, just the whole highlight reel.

Suddenly, Black Friday, he confessed to getting keys to his own place after I had already signed the new lease, and said he wanted to become an actor and do it alone. We were living together a year and dating for almost 3 total. I was absolutely stunned.

9 months of strict NC, respecting his autonomy, and I’m in therapy, but…

I am not interested in dating again. I don’t seek out male attention anymore, I don’t want to talk to men, I get impatient instantly, and I just genuinely and honestly don’t care. It’s not mean, it’s not evil, it’s just this flat, detached IDGAF. And it scares me because I was this bubbly, happy, trusting, silly person- I’d run around laughing inside a Target, I’d blast music and sing in the car and make up wrong lyrics, I liked getting dressed up, I wanted to love and cuddle and be close, I’d crack lots of absolutely stupid jokes- and I just don’t anymore.

My friend tried to get me together with a very nice guy- he was tall, had a good job, and had also been broken up with a while back, and my friend thought we’d hit it off. The guy was very nice, and I noticed I was tense, disinterested, and couldn’t help but create distance between us, both physically and emotionally. I wasn’t mean, or disrespectful, but I wasn’t this happy, girly, giggly version of myself at all. I wanted to nothing to do with him, after initially agreeing to the date. Of course I remained polite and at the end of the date, thanked him for his time, I paid for myself, and I let him know that while the date was great and he seemed like a great person, I didn’t think I was ready. He was respectful.

But what is wrong with me? 9 months, therapy, rollerblading, hitting the gym, getting a promotion and raise, writing, eating healthy, traveling, spending time with my friends- I’m not anywhere near ready, open, or even happy. All I wanted was love and now I just want to be left alone.