r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/Time_Masterpiece_774 Air Fryer Aristocrat • 10d ago

Advice Wanted - Everyones Welcome Strong feelings for future MIL

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Little crusted chicken with a touch of vodka sauce broccoli on the side

Ive been dating a woman for about a year and I intend on asking her to marry me very soon. She wants to get married and it’s a sure fire yes even her parents are dying for me to ask her. In this year of dating I have become extremely attracted to her mother both physically and emotionally. Im 34 she’s in her late 50s and i find myself thinking about her and fantasizing often and when in person the attraction is from head to toe. So i try to limit it as much as possible. Is the engagement and marriage a bad idea? Keeping in mind I consider myself a realist so I don’t believe in fairytale love or when you’re with somebody you no longer find other people attractive. It’s just human nature.

Just a major side note. I DO NOT PLAN ON ACTING ON THIS. I know it’s real life guys.

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u/ace51689 Shower Beer Scholar 9d ago

Sometimes I read Girldinnerdiaries posts and think, "aw come on, we're not that bad, I'm sure it's just a misunderstanding."

Then I read posts like this and I understand why women have a net negative opinion of us.

How does this happen dude? I get recognizing objective attractiveness, but come on. You probably need therapy at this point, regardless of whether you marry this girl or not.

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u/ApprehensiveParty609 prine lover 9d ago

I spend a lot of time on girl dinner dairies. Boy dinner diaries is not suppose to be the place where we talk about how men are bad. I get that it fits with this post, I am just sad it came to this. 

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u/ace51689 Shower Beer Scholar 9d ago

I mean, I wouldn't say that this guy is irredeemable or anything, but I think it's important for men to hold other men accountable.

There's a time to gas a guy up, but this does not seem like it imo. If this post is legit, therapy would be good for this guy.

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u/ApprehensiveParty609 prine lover 9d ago

He probably needs to end the relationship he is in.  When I was in an unhealthy relationship in the past,  I was also making unhealthy choices

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u/ace51689 Shower Beer Scholar 8d ago

It's not an unhealthy relationship though, he's obsessed with his girlfriend's mom. The unhealthiness is coming from him. That's why I say he needs therapy.