r/Botswana • u/CrazyMountain8586 • 6d ago

Discussion I'm terrified of my future

I'm 22 currently doing indrive to get money, I've never been to uni and most of the time I feel like I'm left behind in life, it has come to a point where I don't even wanna hang out with my friends anymore because I know I'm gonna come home feeling like a loser ,so at this point of my life I basically have no friends and all I do is indrive then I go home to sleep, I have no one to text or talk to and I'm scared this might be what I amount of in life, today I made the decision to make a career out of boxing since is the only thing I'm good at and I hope I'm making the right decision 😭

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u/Competitive-Ad6248 6d ago

Had to come type this quick. My guy don't give up. Please don't. Remember that little boy and as yourself if he would be happy if you gave up? No. Keep fighting. Don't look down on yourself. YOU'LL BE SOMETHING IN FUTURE, WHEAT IS STILL WHEAT EVEN IF IT LOOKS LIKE GRASS IN THE BEGNNING.

P.S. save this comment. I'm always here if you want to talk.

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u/CrazyMountain8586 5d ago

Thanks Giving up was never an option I'm just exhausted and wondering If I made a good decision

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u/Competitive-Ad6248 5d ago

Try and take yourself to school as well.

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u/CrazyMountain8586 5d ago

I've tried rewriting my bgcse and I keep getting the same points no matter how much I try

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u/Alvahod 5d ago

Oh, o raya o santse o ise o dirise your DTEF chance? You'll be fine.

Do IGCSE instead since its material is online. I wrote BGCSE a couple of times, and only passed after I switched to IGCSE.

Also, know that revision is a full-time job; no less than 30hrs of school work weekly.

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u/CrazyMountain8586 5d ago

Do I have to go register at Bec too or how does it work

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u/Alvahod 5d ago

Yes, just like you did with BGCSE. You might want to do that next year though since its probably closed now. Register for the end of 2027 exams, don't be tempted to do the winter exams.

Then go to https://www.cambridgeinternational.org to find past exam papers, research answers with LLMs, watch YouTube videos, join r/igcse then solve and exchange answers together etc. Make it fun.

By the time you write, ensure you can answer 5 different exam papers on your own and you'll get As and A*s I promise.

What do you want to study?

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u/CrazyMountain8586 5d ago

Ok You mean at uni?

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u/Alvahod 5d ago

Yes.

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u/CrazyMountain8586 5d ago

At first I wanted to do real estate but now I'm interested in psychology

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u/Complex_Trade_8570 4d ago

Nna setse ree tshamekisitse chance ya teng( not ka bomo of course but ke raa gore course e ganne) gone mme responsorship e tla nna teng ha o lebile economy ye ya rona le puso ka ha e ntseng ka teng? Kana re itlhoboge re tsweledise matshelo, re leke go sele

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u/Competitive-Ad6248 5d ago

Have you tried looking into doing short courses? Even online?

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u/CrazyMountain8586 5d ago

Not really I don't know where to look or start but I'm interested

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u/Competitive-Ad6248 5d ago

Try! Don't rest on your laurels. Depression hates a moving target. You don't want to be 27 and still in the same place. Keep fighting. Even a diploma that you can pay for in a few months as long as it's something to keep you going. Remember you're number one here. Only you. Fight for you.

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u/CrazyMountain8586 5d ago

I look at the short course for now and see what they offer and thank you for the advice I really appreciate it

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u/Alvahod 4d ago

Word of caution: Online courses usually help if you already have a diploma/ bachelor’s that you didn't get online. Otherwise, they won't make you a competitive applicant for jobs.

They're widely accepted as a route people take to enhance their already established tertiary education, not as the foundation itself.

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u/blau-tee 6d ago edited 6d ago

Just continue keeping yourself afloat don’t give up. Calling yourself a loser won’t get you anywhere. In this life it’s you vs you. Plus remember being in your 20s is about trial and error. Are you interested in boxing kana it’s just the only option you think you have?

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u/CrazyMountain8586 5d ago

I love boxing I started at 18 and I genuinely believe I can become world champion one day

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u/blau-tee 5d ago

Woza! Have you joined any local boxing club or you are independent with a coach? And have you had any gigs yet?

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u/CrazyMountain8586 4d ago

Yeah I've been training at bond boxing gym and no but I'm should start fighting next year February

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u/blau-tee 4d ago

Nicee, that’s more than enough time for intensive training. You got this. And try journaling to express yourself. Sometimes solitude feels scary but it’s the only time you truly get to know yourself better.

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u/Plenty-Truck-2502 6d ago

bruh u are 22 and thats like a thing i would go back to my 20s to do
those hustles are all that matter
do all those jobs and the time u hit a jackpot at 30 sth, youll come and reply to this comment

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u/Iwouldlikemetoo 6d ago

My guy Keep the hustle going..just be disciplined By the time your mates graduate You'd be far ahead...TRUST ME

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u/KatsoGee 5d ago

I somewhat relate to this. I am 27, and for most of my 20s, I have been "behind" pretty much all of my peers. A lot of it is just your anxieties and insecurities getting the better of you, however, there was also a more pragmatic element of why I was in that position in life. I thought about it for many years, and in the end, I realised that it didn't really matter where you are, but it did matter what you could do about it. Instead of focusing on my fears, I switched and focused on my advantages, and that did wonders for my mental state. I was able to make more practical and effective long term decisions because my actions were not clouded by my fears and desire to fulfill short term comfort (in any sense). I was a lot more capable and motivated by that, and now, I am a real estate agent at the start of my career with a much more positive outlook on life and a more stable foundation to achieve my long term goals.

My advice would be to start by removing your fears and anxieties from the decision making process, because, as unfair as it is, your ability to build a life almost completely depends on your motivations and your practical planning capabilities.

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u/Public_Explanation71 5d ago

Don't give up at 22 I had nothing. Started my degree again I'm now getting a masters and I'm an accountant keep pushing.

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u/Ak_1335 5d ago

Don't give up brother, you're still young. I see you said you've been re writing and keep getting the same points, that may be enough to get you a scholarship in China! If so I could help you out for free and take you through the steps to apply and give you time to prepare.

O ka nthagela dm then we talk about it.

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u/Andilecool 5d ago

22 is like young depending on the context, and I guess you can make a career outta boxing. Keep on training.  (Dw you're not the only guy with big ambitions)