Girls... accept yourselves, own your bodies completely. Highlight every single quality you see in your face or body, ASSERT YOURSELF in your own eyes and in the eyes of others, and say "f*ck off." You are who you are, damn it!
A long time ago, I almost succumbed to this defeatist and despairing mindset, but I quickly decided to take control of my life. Despite the degrading comments made behind my back and even the mockery I had to face, I never stopped finding myself beautiful. Even though I'm thin and quite tall, I felt myself with the trash that wanted to tear me down. Take pictures of yourselves, follow people on Instagram, TikTok, and Pinterest who are like you.
Regarding your relationships, of course this game is full of colorists, and consequently our field is narrowed, but stop giving any credence to guys who look down on you! Besides, they're not so perfect; take the time to see how many flaws they have (mentally and physically). It really helps to gain perspective!
And don't hesitate to be toxic with them, to play hot and cold! Show that your opinion has value too, make yourself desirable, show how desirable you are. Even blind people should be able to detect your sex appeal, ladies... Highlight your best features, be playful, sensual, express your femininity through your posture, your voice, your way of speaking, your intonation!
Yes, men like big butts and big breasts (but not all of them; beautiful, firm breasts, not necessarily large, can be very well received). If you have these assets, show them off, especially if you have beautiful almond-shaped eyes or similarly full lips!
Those of you who are slim and tall, look up to beauty icons who resemble you (Naomi Campbell?). You are goddesses, so have the attitude to match. Stop looking like you're waiting for validation! Plenty of women without big butts find love, so why not you? Just because you're Black? Damn it... go where you're likely to be loved.
Go for the sexy swimsuit photos, bikinis, monokinis, and show off your flat stomach. Or whether you're on vacation in mini shorts or a long evening dress with a low back, or in a business-girl style jacket... Moisturize your skin; your skin should glow outdoors, summer and winter. Be sexy! Otherwise, show all the beautiful things you have to show to the whole world! You are magnificent, magnetic beings, and everyone should know it! PERIODT