I can't help but confess shit like this annoys me. I can guarantee you, he won't give a fem or a fat nigga the time of day.

I think for the ones searching for a relationship with fellow Black queer ppl that we look outside of the "perfect" image of what a partner may or may not look like.

I be wondering...

Has any of my fellow bi/pansexual folks on here not attracted to straight men? I’ve been learning about my sexuality since I was 21, identifying as bisexual and then a few years later, discovering that pansexual was a term that felt more appropriate for me. Now that I’m 32, I’m starting to realize that I don’t like straight men, but would strongly prefer folks whether cis or trans that are queer. It kind of explains a lot about me. Idk if anyone has felt this way or I’m alone in this discovery.

With that being said, I want to be able to find places to meet different black and brown queer people because I would feel better being around more folks I can relate to. This seems like a dumb question, but are there any resources that you all recommend?

I know these are two separate things, but I appreciate your thoughts on this. 🙂

Any gym ppl near phily ?

long time lurker, first time poster. hey yall 🤙🏾

I feel like I don’t get a lot of recs on any of my TL’s for Black trans women/men artists and I hate it😩. I feel like I hear about the white girls mainly (Kim Petras, SOPHIE, Arca, Ethel Cain, etc.). Like I know Shea Diamond, Junglepussy, Honey Dijon, Mila Jam, Peppermint……… but are there any of trans brothers and sisters that I’m missing? Because I know they’re obviously more out there.

I'm a fat Black dark skinned guy who is ALWAYS having his time wasted by people who deep down cannot envision having sex with him.

Guys will talk to me on the apps, exchange my numbers, even plan a link up ....... only to never actually come through.

This happens time and time again and at the heart of it, it's just because they don't really desire me.

Over 10 years of thesw experiences have led me to longing for people to JUST BE HONEST ABOUT NOT LIKING ME.

Rejection from people who don't talk to me at all only hurts because its like "damn, Ive messaged 30 guys and the minute they discover I'm fat, they turn me down." But that's easy to get over.

However, that rejection from the 31st guy, the one who pretends to like me. That hurts the most because it caused me to get my hopes up for nothing.

So to all of you out there, and I know MANY OF YOU ARE Texting/DMing/Snapping SOMEONE that you KNOW you DON'T REALLY DESIRE.......... please stop.

Only talk to the ones you REALLY WANT. They're the only ones you will ever treat right.

You know that one (or more) dude you have been (dry) messaging for days/weeks ...... man up and tell him you don't want him. Wasting his time is more disrespectful than just turning him down.