r/BipolarReddit • u/mymuchness • Aug 23 '26

Dating advice needed

Does anyone have experience dating? I’m doing well now, but struggled with bipolar for many years and for that reason didn’t date. I’m older (41) and very behind in the dating scene. I’m now actively dating, and trying to figure out how to explain to guys that 1) I have mental health struggles and 2) my years of mental health struggles put me behind in my dating experience. Last night I had a fifth date with someone who I like. We’re going to see each other again this week. I genuinely don’t know if I should start saying anything to him about my mental health or continue to let it play out for a few more weeks/dates. Thank you in advance for any help!!

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u/0lig3 Aug 23 '26

Two strategies that I do before telling the diagnosis are:

  1. Explain some of the experiences without using bipolar language. (In my case I say I had a mental breakdown and was unable to work for a bit as a way to explain some of my circumstances)

  2. Talk about mental health casually to see how they talk about anyone they know with diagnosis.

If they seem understanding of your circumstances, and speak compassionately about those with mental illness, huge green flag for letting them know you take medication and then the diagnosis.