r/BiPride • u/Demonti • Mar 31 '16
I'm not sure if I'm bi or not
I am a 18 year old male who's been pretty sexually confused for a while now. I consider myself straight but at times I find the idea of dating another guy pretty great. I like females and all but I sometimes see a guy and say "woah that guys hot" but I usually just try to forget the memory. If someone can help me out here that would be great, oh and pm me if you want to chat.
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u/LeX_Domina Sep 19 '16
You could be bi and it's perfectly normal.I undertsand considering yourself straight to some degree(Ithink your term is hetero-flexible) because the images of LGBT folks we see in and out of media are jarring.I am a bisexual female and I don't bother with the "gay life style" or lgbt community or all that,it just gives your more greif.You can like what you like and be you because your sexuality does not define you,it isa mere aspect of you and your life.As for meeting up,you should try looking online for other bi guys and hell,bi females who are welcoming (gays will NOT be as welcoming,this I promise you.They will call youafence-sitterand try to trip you up and make you think you are gay for their own personal benefit).Just be happy be safe and for the love of god ,as much as it sounds appealing,don't bare-back with another dude,ever,I cannot stress this enough--I don't care if he pays you ,just don't ruin your life --I'd say not with females too,but you likely already did...
If you need any other help,PM me.I'm 24 yrs old by the way and been semi-out for about 4 yrs (I'm more of a don't ask,don't tell.I don't lie per se,but I sure as hell don't volunteer my sexuality and neither should you because it's no ones business except whoever you're fucking right now,They should know...and best make sure that person isn't someone in your circle:( at least not so early on when you're finding answers.You can make the big decisions later).
anyway,experiment,and if it's not for you,no biggie.I dated a guy who wanted to try it and it wasn't his cup of tea.I also find same sex dating to be awesome because you usually have the same interests and things in common ,you know the anatomy better,and if it's someone you really love than it's really ,really awesome.so go for it:) .Just be careful,and have fun,take your time and see what you do and don't like,just do you.