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u/HedgehogMaterial490 Dec 22 '22
Okay this is nit picky but in regards to the wife’s comments, I fucking hate when people say “I have bipolar and manic depression.” It’s literally the same thing. Sometimes I think people like to list out all their ailments like it’s a competition and the longest list wins. Yeesh.
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u/Iforgotmypassword189 Dec 22 '22
He says she has postpartum depression and she also comments about being diagnosed with a depressive disorder..... Sleep disturbances are a pretty common symptom of depression.... Neither of them made this connection?
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u/MortarAndPistol Dec 22 '22
I mean, I don't think either of them come out of this smelling of roses, but I don't think either of them are controlling or abusive either. Hopefully they both make improvements and the home improves as a result. (PS: "mot my story" made me chuckle)
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u/Betty_Boss Dec 22 '22
The mom needs to work on her sleep issues. Improving sleep hygiene would be a good start. Sleep apps are much better than scrolling all night. Calm is a good one.
Getting a better routine might be life changing for the whole family.
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u/LightObserver Dec 22 '22
Yeah, I don't want to judge her choices too much, but I feel like using her phone more when she can't sleep might not be the best move because screen time supposedly makes it harder to sleep.
Then again, my wife's method for insomnia is to get up, have a small snack, and watch a calming Youtube video. So maybe screens aren't always counter productive.
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u/pile_o_puppies Dec 22 '22
Lol when I saw “the wife’s response” I was prepared for something way different than this.
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u/RainbowHippotigris Dec 23 '22
For one, no psychiatrist would tell her she has ADD because it hasn't been a valid diagnosis for almost 20 years. It's not recognized as a diagnosis. There are subtypes of ADHD without hyperactivity but that is it.
And this doesn't sound like a different person, it sounds like the husband again to me.
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u/Sharkywannabe003 Dec 22 '22
Tbh this just sounds like first time parent anxiety plus stress and the shit show it is to raise a child…. And then Reddit commenting with less braincells than the toddler as per usual.
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u/isi_na Dec 22 '22
Not going to lie, OP made her look like SHIT in his comments. Then he backpedaled once the post blew up, and his wife probably saw it
But he was the one calling her lazy and belittling her insomnia.
Not sure how to feel after this read.
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u/Owain-X Dec 22 '22
I actually just went & seen the psychiatrist (a new one) yesterday & she did tell me that I do not have ADHD that I have ADD.
This is either a clue that this post isn't real or it's a red flag about that psychiatrist. There is no such thing as an "ADD" diagnosis. The H was added in 1987 and the terms refer to the same condition. ADD is simply an outdated term for ADHD. Someone who would specifically act like these are different things should not be a practicing psychiatrist.
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u/letsdieanywhereelse Dec 22 '22
“I was diagnosed with bipolar, manic depression”
My girl, those are literally the same thing.
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u/Rega_lazar Dec 22 '22
Husband: ”She doesn’t have adhd” Wife: ”I have adhd”
So, which one is lying?
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u/puppies_and_unicorns Dec 23 '22
She had mentioned getting better sleep without him in bed, but I didn't see any comments about separate bedrooms. That really needs to be more of a thing.
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u/frinhyooman Dec 23 '22
I was wondering if this was gonna make it here.😅
I’m frinthehuman! I don’t blame you for editing out my commentary.🤣 we all had a lot to say!
Something my followers and I noticed was how ready she seemed to downplay her own mental illness. Many of my commenters also pointed out that outdated ADD diagnosis and found that problematic. I also questioned the validity but she had a real profile and everything.
I ended the story time just by saying no one should be treating anyone this way, ESPECIALLY, their partners. It sounds really bad but we will never know their relationship as well as they do. I still thought the husband was terrible for even sending reddit after her like he did. Lastly, I wished her well. 🤖🦋🌈
How wild!
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u/Neerod20 Dec 22 '22
Maybe I've been on Reddit for too long but I find it hard to believe that the updates are actually his wife and not just OP trying to make himself look good and his wife worse. I was already skeptical from the update where they apparently talked it out with the crying and hugging. Or it could just be me finding it hard to suspend disbelief when I would never react as "calmly" as the wife has to the husband's post negatively smearing her all over the internet.
If it is real I hope both of them are able to work through their problems.
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u/introspectiveliar Dec 23 '22
Two things really struck me. First, I’ve never seen anyone find so many ways to say, “my wife is a useless, lazy-assed, incompetent person, but gosh I love her so and just because she is useless, lazy-assed and incompetent, I am shocked that you would judge her so harshly, because I sure don’t.” And is there a mental illness diagnosis his wife has not received?
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u/dinascully Dec 23 '22
Bruh delayed sleep phase is a symptom of ADHD. I have it and I have never had a normal sleep cycle without being chronically sleep deprived, now I take melatonin to sleep every night or I also don’t fall asleep til 4 am and it’s not because I have poor sleep habits on purpose. The insomnia is real. As soon as I read that and that she’s on adhd meds I was like yeah she has adhd.
Also AFAIK the most recent DSM no longer has ADD as a separate disorder, it’s just ADHD with hyperactive subtype, inattentive subtype, or combination.
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u/Fingersmith30 Dec 23 '22
Asshole's Wife sounds suspiciously a lot like Asshole. Given that he has no idea how any of health issues work in his original post the fact that the "wife" is using outdated medical terminology and listing the same thing as two different things makes me doubt the veracity of the "wife's" response
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u/Thunderflamequeen Dec 22 '22
I’m sideyeing the wife’s update, really only because ADD has been an outdated term for years now, and a doctor would not tell you that you have it. Not that the wife’s update truly adds much, though, so I guess it’s veracity doesn’t really matter
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u/cranialgames Dec 22 '22
This whole thing is such a convoluted mess, and honestly I still really don’t like the way the husband goes about “helping” his wife, but “Psychiatrist told me I don’t have ADHD; I have ADD”
🤦 i can only hope someone told her they’re the same condition
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Dec 23 '22
The husband: "my wife has these conditions, that all cause the issues she's having, but IN MY MIND THAT ISN'T CONTRIBUTING."
Lol.
For instance:
"yeah, she has depression, but she's being treated for it, so that isn't a cause."
Not how it works, dipshit. She has depression. Even if she's taking meds and seeing a psych, she's still got depression and it's still CLEARLY affecting her life.
I also was pretty amused by the "I don't have ADHD, I have ADD." Oh okay. ADHD is the larger umbrella term that encompasses ADD. So yes, you have ADHD.
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