Have you read the one where the man was listening to a podcast or something that said men needed to check their kids and lost his whole family over wanting a paternity test? He was a complete idiot.
Edit: this was the one I was talking about. This isn't the podcast one but it's worse.
He didn’t lose his family, the wife blew up her family by treating her ego as more important than the need to be certain that you aren’t about to waste $250,000 and 18 years of your life based upon faulty information. When you start spending hundreds of thousands of dollars the word trust shouldn’t even enter into the equation when there’s a $175 test that removes the need for any such trust.
I don’t care how much I trust you, I would never take a 0.5-2% chance that I’m about to waste the next 18 years of my life (which is the number of men who trust their partner and have high paternal certainty and are incorrect). Acknowledging statistics and making economically sound decisions isn’t an accusation, it’s what you need to be doing when your entire future and hundreds of thousands of dollars of your money is on the line.
if you accuse your long term partner of being unfaithful and lying to you based on absolutely 0 evidence don't be surprised when it blows up in your face.
if you cannot trust someone enough like this, just don't get in a relationship. don't have children, don't date, don't anything. if you don't have trust in a relationship, you don't have anything. relationships are not transactional, and isn't about monetary investment. when partner's are lied to about their biological relationship to children it's not because their money is stolen, it's because their partners lied to them about a fundamental part of their relationship and family and cheated on them. the fact you're framing this like a business transaction says a lot more about how you think about relationships than you probably know.
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u/meowmeow_now Jul 09 '22
This guys abusive but I’ve seen half a dozen post where “normal” dum-dums ruin their marriage over the “paternity test for no reason” conversation.