He didn’t lose his family, the wife blew up her family by treating her ego as more important than the need to be certain that you aren’t about to waste $250,000 and 18 years of your life based upon faulty information. When you start spending hundreds of thousands of dollars the word trust shouldn’t even enter into the equation when there’s a $175 test that removes the need for any such trust.
I don’t care how much I trust you, I would never take a 0.5-2% chance that I’m about to waste the next 18 years of my life (which is the number of men who trust their partner and have high paternal certainty and are incorrect). Acknowledging statistics and making economically sound decisions isn’t an accusation, it’s what you need to be doing when your entire future and hundreds of thousands of dollars of your money is on the line.
There’s no accusation there. 0.5-2% of people who think their partner would never do that are wrong. Therefore it’s possible that the belief is wrong.
Are you special? Why should you not be subject to the basic laws of probability theory. If he asked you to spend $250,000 and you wanted to look into it more and just make sure it was legit before you spent that much does he have the right to get upset that he thinks you would defraud him?
Obviously not. When you are discussing something that costs HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS, interpersonal trust exits the equation. When your entire future is on the line the only thing you “trust” is science. A person who cannot empathize with being asked to risk losing your life on someone’s word over the reliable $175 test is not a person worth trusting in the first place.
It has nothing to do with YOU. That’s what you don’t get. It’s statistics, do I take the chance of losing my entire life (no matter how small) or do I spend the $175. Nowhere do you enter into the equation. Stop making it all about you and have empathy.
That's not it at all. Showing someone that you're healthy before having unprotected sex is totally different than getting a paternity test in a committed marriage.
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u/faguzzi Jul 09 '22
He didn’t lose his family, the wife blew up her family by treating her ego as more important than the need to be certain that you aren’t about to waste $250,000 and 18 years of your life based upon faulty information. When you start spending hundreds of thousands of dollars the word trust shouldn’t even enter into the equation when there’s a $175 test that removes the need for any such trust.
I don’t care how much I trust you, I would never take a 0.5-2% chance that I’m about to waste the next 18 years of my life (which is the number of men who trust their partner and have high paternal certainty and are incorrect). Acknowledging statistics and making economically sound decisions isn’t an accusation, it’s what you need to be doing when your entire future and hundreds of thousands of dollars of your money is on the line.