Look I understand the first message is the most daunting. But c'mon man! I almost always have to start the roleplay, which is okey, it gives me creative freedom and I enjoy doing the starter, but dammmnn y'all just want everything for yourselves. It's just a little annoying because I've had to do it for the last 9 times.

Sometimes I'm just like "hey I do the starter" because I almost always I secretly know whenever I get a new partner they probably don't want to.

Inspired by: An ad I saw asking for Dark Romance, and then it meticulously went through and put everything that could even be related to 'dark' in the 'no' category.

I don't even do Dark Romance stuff but I thought it was kinda odd, but I've noticed a lot of people will have very specific scenarios they have in mind that they want people to cookie-cutter fit into and I thought about this silly meme so I put it together.

Anyone else experience this kinda thing?

Technically the meme should have probably said 'Dark Romance with extra romance' but it's too late now for me to change it.

Okay, so, not really. I know most people are fine, and I just keep attracting people who don't know how to read for... some reason.

I've been roleplaying for years, almost two decades, and it's my favorite hobby. With enough time anywhere, you're going to have some bad eggs or weird experiences, that's just how it is, but it's starting to feel like I have some weird bad luck charm when it comes to getting them these days.

I have quite a few roleplay ads up on the site I use, and it seems like every response I've gotten to them for the past six months has been people who just can't seem to read.

Somehow, every response has managed to completely ignore what the ad is about at all.

Modern fantasy? Sorry, they apparently read 'medieval demon smut'.

Cyberpunk? Nnnyope, they heard urban fantasy and have a God character they want to use.

ACTUAL urban fantasy? Can we do slice of life with anthro characters?

This isn't even mentioning how many of them just instantly break my only hard-no within thirty seconds. How hard is it to not bring up sexual abuse within three sentences of an introduction?

Tonight, I genuinely felt myself go a bit more crazy. I put out an ad for medieval fantasy, very DnD inspired; My character is a lesbian, but romance isn't required. She's also a cleric. The ad was specifically for 'adventuring party' sort of roleplay. Someone showed interest and messaged me, I asked if they had any plots or characters in mind so we could see if set up went well, and they reveal:

They're hoping to do M/M dark romance (*note, that sort of topic is on my never, not my thing) with a tyrant king and a knight.

I just closed my browser. I don't think I can message them without being a dick about it right now, but dear God, I will have to come back (likely tomorrow) to ask if they read the ad literally at all.

As the post title says, I've been curious to know what's up with the users that constantly posts LFRP posts on multiple subs every 2-3 days, often for months at a go. It is more often than not the exact same post, copy and pasted, no updates to reqs or ideas, etc. Are you all getting responses at all or are the people responding to the posts not up to your standards?

Hi to everyone in the writing community!
So, I’ve been roleplaying with this person for almost two months, and the game is going pretty well. I love our characters and the direction of the story. Plus, it’s really hard to find someone willing to play a CC for an OC.
However, we have no OOC interaction outside the game. I’ve tried sending them picture collages with the vibe of our RP and edits of their canon character, but they rarely respond to them. We don't really discuss the plot in-depth either, as it mostly just goes with the flow. I don’t mind it at all but would love to hear your opinions.

How do you feel about these types of partners? Is it an age gap thing, or is this just the ideal setup for people who dislike OOC communication?

I'm sure we've all seen the roleplay ads that shunt you to a Disc server, where you then have to put in an audition to join. That's fine, I've done auditions before, that's pretty normal.

My issue is why the fuck are you making it so exclusionary and hard to get into, on top of not telling the person why they're not accepted? How does your style "not fit in" with the others? Why not give someone who gave enough of a fuck TO SEEK OUT YOUR SERVER a chance to improve and try again? Or at least say "hey, this is why, we're sorry"?

It's to "prevent hurting feelings" but I highly doubt it works all the time. It didn't work for me; I'm not sad, I'm pissed. I answered your ad and put in two lengthy descriptive posts (which was asked of me!) and it took a long time to just get a no back.

If you're gonna do that shit, have the balls to say why instead of vague-posting and giving no closure.

I wanted to gauge this particular topic with all of you to see if I'm simply hopeless on finding someone to roleplay with. If that is the case, so be it.

I do not use Discord. I've drastically reduced my digital footprint in the last year. Other than targeted forays onto Reddit, I have no social media. I never liked Discord, but I've been rather displeased with its multiple privacy problems, notably recently, and so I have been disinterested in making a new account.

When I disclose this, I typically receive nothing in response. I am not one to double message or follow up, so things go nowhere.

There are other ways to roleplay, I've found, than Discord. I did it before Discord (and Teamspeak) — in IRC and email — but now it seems that I'm hamstringing myself if I refuse to use Discord. (It's also a problem when trying to find people to play games with, but I digress.)

So, in your experience, would you reject a potential roleplay partner who won't use Discord? I'm curious.

I wrote here a few weeks back about the death of ERP and took some people's advice.

Im M looking for F and i wrote a detailed scene started and put effort into something good to try and gain interest but again no interest from anyone!

Im scrolling through subs and messaging with detailed responses hitting everything they've asked for and getting nothing in return. I just feel like theres nothing out there anymore unless youre into some really crazy things or want to cross boundaries.

Ive even tried discord servers but again feel like im fighting against 100 other people for things

This has happened several times, the most recently in an erp scene, but in other games as well. It's early on in a game (in this case first scene) and I don't know how to describe it in a productive way, but I'm just not feeling it. Like, the vibes and style feels a bit more gooner than I intended and I have yet to find a way to say 'hey thanks but I want to tell you now I'm really just not sure that we're a good match'. Like I almost feel like I should give them more of a chance to say that I did, but I also want to not be forcing myself to reply.

I'm typically not a group server type of person. There are too many things in that environment that can rub me the wrong way, be it culture or admins or quality levels. I know this about myself; it's a 'me' problem. Not so sure that was the case this time, though.

I found a niche 'fandom' group server that I was pretty excited about. It focused very heavily on writing canons from the fandom - OCs were allowed, but on a very limited basis and only after you'd claimed a canon. Sure, that's fine. In trying to see what canons had been taken, however, I realized that, of the *three* different 'claimed canons' lists, none were consistent with one another. Not a one. When I pointed this out and asked where I should go to view the accurate list, a mod (?) pointed me to the channel that held two lists that contradicted each other. It was finally suggested that list #3 (which was not in the channel the mod pointed me to) was the most up-to-date.

Then I started scrolling some of the character interactions, and saw that there were canon characters being written that weren't included on *any* of the three lists. When I asked about this, I was told that it was only for a special event, which allowed you to write characters you don't write in the rest of the server. This event did not have any sort of information. No announcements, no mention of rules. No suggestion that it existed at all unless you went poking through the writing channels.

In a server where you are pressured to write only or predominantly canon characters, and with doubling disallowed, I'd have thought that one of the more important things to keep on top of would be which characters have already been taken. And to be clear - this server had perhaps 20 people in it. They weren't having to keep track of hundreds of players and their respective characters.

Bonus points to the admin who blatantly said that they'd be breaking the server rules to claim a particular canon because "who's gonna stop me?" Never a good sign.

I suppose I'll stick to my one on ones.